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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

How often are you unreasonable?

9 replies

Minimili · 15/02/2025 19:10

This isn’t to be taken too seriously it’s just out of curiosity…

I noticed recently when voting on AIBU that I had been part of a small minority when voting on a couple of occasions.
I realised that was unusual and most of the time I am part of the larger vote.

These weren’t controversial threads but I was still genuinely surprised that the voting had gone the way it had and that more people didn’t agree with the OP. I wonder sometimes if voting is already well underway if that influences opinion when voting?

There have also been a couple of occasions when I’ve voted one way but changed it later after reading comments that have influenced me to change my mind.

I find it interesting to have my views and opinions challenged and sometimes question myself if I am part of a small percentage who voted.

For my vote - AIBU - my voting varies.
IANBU - I am usually part of the majority vote.

OP posts:
user3827 · 15/02/2025 19:16

YABU because i am an individual?!

xRobin · 15/02/2025 19:19

I don’t know if I voted correctly 😂 but I have found my opinion can also change sometimes based on the OP’s own comments that are added further down the thread.
Depending on the topic, I have found some seem a lot harsher critics than I am. I’m new to MN and I feel like I can already guess which way a thread is going to go and which to steer from (some seem to invite negativity).

NovemberMorn · 15/02/2025 19:21

xRobin · 15/02/2025 19:19

I don’t know if I voted correctly 😂 but I have found my opinion can also change sometimes based on the OP’s own comments that are added further down the thread.
Depending on the topic, I have found some seem a lot harsher critics than I am. I’m new to MN and I feel like I can already guess which way a thread is going to go and which to steer from (some seem to invite negativity).

This /.

Didimum · 15/02/2025 19:27

My opinion has absolutely changed as the comments go on and make me think about the situation from a different angle. That’s a good thing, I think!

Nothitrockbottomyet · 15/02/2025 19:36

Sometimes I don't vote because I'm not quite sure what the question is or sometimes I can see both sides.

I also sometimes change my vote after reading some of the posts on the thread and they sway me to change my mind.

I must admit I'm a bit of a cussed person but I find I go against the consensus of opinion more on the Chat topic forum rather than i ever do on AIBU.

JudgeBread · 15/02/2025 19:38

There's a bizarre phenomenon on here where the first five or six posts set the tone for the whole thread, and even if the OP is being completely reasonable/unreasonable in the real world, the vote will sway massively in the opposite direction based solely on the first few posts.

Marine30 · 15/02/2025 19:41

JudgeBread · 15/02/2025 19:38

There's a bizarre phenomenon on here where the first five or six posts set the tone for the whole thread, and even if the OP is being completely reasonable/unreasonable in the real world, the vote will sway massively in the opposite direction based solely on the first few posts.

Yes! I noticed this too. We are pack animals more than we consciously realise lots of the time.

TheDandyLion · 15/02/2025 19:42

I've hidden it so I can't see the polls.

user3827 · 15/02/2025 19:51

I thought you couldn't see the "answer " until after voting?

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