Got a weird crush on an older man

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He’s 62 - I’m 35. It’s hugely embarrassing.
I’ve got a crush on him.
We attend the same hobby group.

It may sound weird but I can sort of see what he was like when he was younger when I look at him.

He’s charismatic, funny and just an all round nice guy.
He gave me a hug goodbye the other day and it was a really nice tight one, made me feel weirdly attracted to him.
He also walks past me and occasionally squeezes my shoulders in a friendly way.

Of course I’m not going to act on it, as he’s the same age as my dad and totally different life stages.
Neither of us are in relationships, but I feel it’s just a crush anyway.

I just wondered if anyone else has had a crush like this on an older man?
I’m hoping it goes as quickly as it came as I’m feeling a bit embarrassed about it.

He keeps appearing in my dreams too!

If you're not in relationships then there's nothing to stop you from dating, if you want to.

He squeezes your shoulders? Sounds lecherous to me.

Are there women his own age in the group? Dies he do the same to them?

@coloursquare I think I would feel too awkward and embarrassed dating someone so much older than me.

@VaddaABeetch There are women his own age in the group and he does also chat to them/hug them etc.

I take it by the lack of responses I’m just a bit odd for this!

No you're not, not at all. Someone I was with for a while (& slept with) is 20 years older than me. Incredibly sensual, touchy & sexy. Don't regret it for a minute. Just a bit sad we're at different life stages. Why can't you just be together for a while, you're both single Stop caring what others think!

Tight hugs, touching your shoulders..yeah, dudes done this before

Do it back to him. See what he does.

He must have some quality or trait that appeals to an unfulfilled desire within you. He's said or done something that has resonated with you.

He sounds a bit of a creep, tbh, perving on a woman young enough to be his daughter.

I just wondered if anyone else has had a crush like this on an older man?

Hes not just an older man but an old man compared to you.

When you’re his age, he will be 89. Do you think he’d go for an 89 year old?

Many a good tune played on an old fiddle, I'd have a go on him if I were you 💪🏻

You have no idea what he thinks about the OP ( if anything)
She, in the other hand, has a crush on him.

Dont be nasty.

Ask to meet his sons.

This is MN, he will either be a closet axe murderer or porn riddled misogynist pervert.

If you like him and hes single ask him for coffee, you might find hes an old bore with stinky breath or you might find he is delightful and good in bed 😂

Completely resonates with me.
I'm recently widowed so more complicated but I met an older guy on holiday and he hugged me, squeezed my shoulders etc and it just felt lovely.
We have messaged the last 3 weeks. Just friendly chat.
He may just feel sorry for me!
We just got on so well and I have been thinking of him a lot the last few weeks.
You still got your crush?

I need to know what the hobby is that attracts such a diversity of people.

God some of the people on here are horrible! I would just see what happens - it may be that it passes soon. Either way, if he’s interested you’ll find out.

And the hugging.

There can be lots. Walking, sports, learning a language....