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Just caught my husband vaping do I say anything?

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Ando1234 · 14/12/2024 22:15

A few months back I happened to be standing on the landing as my husband arrived home from work and I could have sworn I saw a smoke cloud in his car just after he turned off the engine. I wasn’t completely sure though so I just forgot about it. Well, I’m lying in bed now and the security light in our garden turned on so I just opened our ring camera just to make sure it wasn’t anything dodgy happening and my husband is stood out there vaping. Obviously he’s an adult and he can do what he wants but he’s obviously keeping this a secret from me. I could see as he went in he hid it in his boxers. Do I say that I saw him doing it or just not say anything? I have never been a smoker and it makes me worry about his health.

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YourTurnForTheTree · 14/12/2024 22:17

These posts fascinate me. In our marriage we would just each other straight out. I would say what I saw and ask if he was smoking/vaping without a second thought.

vodkaredbullgirl · 14/12/2024 22:18

Just ask him.

petedicks · 14/12/2024 22:20

Why do you think he's hiding it from you? Why are you hiding the fact you know from him? So weird.

OnlyBoobsandBabies · 14/12/2024 22:26

I was this person who was hiding vaping from my husband because I was worried he would judge me for it. He didn't care in the slightest when I told him. Jobs are stressful and its a way of relaxing from a tough day.

Just say you saw him and he doesn't need to hide it.

Whathappensnowplease · 14/12/2024 23:12

Yes I don't understand why you just don't ask him and have a discussion about it OP. Are you frightened of his reaction if you do?

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