I know his secret but how do I play this?

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I have been married for five years to who I thought was a wonderful man, we have a child and one on the way.
Last night I received a text from his female coworker telling me that “she’s sorry to be that person…. But has been sleeping with me for nearly a year, he told me he would leave you” apparently she feels bad because another coworker “let slip” that my husband and I are expecting again in a few weeks time.
Now I haven’t even confronted my husband about this, it’s been easy as he left for work early this morning and will arrive home around 6pm. I feel sick at the thought of seeing him, could she be lying? I honestly haven’t seen any signs, he’s mentioned this woman a few times and mentioned she’s the office flirt but I didn’t think anything of it.
What should I do?! I’m scared to speak to my friends and family about this, what if she’s lying?!

You were content, another lovely wee addition to your family on the way, and soon.
What a horrible message to get. I suspect your hubby thought he could have some fun, but you’d never find out.
You sound like you have a good supportive family on hand and yes it’s horrible when you tell them why, but they will be your backbone in the coming weeks and you need that going forward as today has been trying to process the shock and that will take a while in itself.
One thing writing it on here but another living it and going forward.
On that note I hope you have a wonderful birth of your new child and wish you well going forward into a different chapter of your life 💐💐

The way you keep clamouring for OP to return is becoming a bit distasteful. This isn’t a soap opera it’s her life.

Good luck OP 🌻

Oh you dear sweet naive thing you.

I hope it all went well for you OP, I'm.glad the OW was upfront with evidence at least. Prioritise yourself and children which sounds like you are, his world will come crashing down and he'll realise what a fool he's been, but you a s your kids are in far better place without a liar in the house!

I agree with another poster that any timing is in your hands.

Not really. I think a few of us probably want to know she’s ok when she’s up to posting. I’m not looking for the grizzly details - I think we can all guess how the conversation went. I’m actually hoping she’s still with her family or gone to bed rather than sitting on the edge of the sofa for ‘the next instalment’.

I find it quite distasteful how some people are derailing the thread because they enjoy an argument. But we’re all different.

What, like you, you mean?? Fucking hilarious.

"Don't post on this thread but I am going to post on it myself"! Classic. The thread is going to fill up with or without me or you.

As for "tripe"... well you know the way when you point a finger, there's 4 digits pointing right back at you!!

I actually don't mind whether or not the OP posts again. I am sure she will if she finds it helpful. It's a bit sad how some people are sitting salivating waiting to see what happened next! And then dress it up as if they are so worthy!!!

Jesus Christ

I am so sorryOP - some of the biggest shits can be the ones you least suspect -

She'd be pretty determined to have faked the selfies with Photoshop too though!

Sorry, if the "other woman" was doing the right thing (a) she wouldn't have got involved with a married man, (b) given how long they have being having their affair, couldn't she wait until the baby was born..... wouldn't you have some basic moral concern for the health of the mother and child....no sorry, the other woman has an ulterior motive for telling her now.

It doesn’t matter if she has ulterior motives or not. It’s happened. How do you come back from a year of lies and a trashed family? If she ends up with him she’s won a big pile of shit anyway. And the odds are he’ll be mad at her. If he’d wanted to be with her he’d have gone.

OP you've got this, you really have.

Please try to ignore a lot of the unhelpful posts on this thread. The awful situation you've been put in has caused lots of people to feel very angry on your behalf.

The most important thing is that you and your 3 year old and your unborn child get through until the birth in as peaceful a manner as possible.

Other posters have given you advise to contact your midwife. I'd second that, along with changing your birthing plans to ensure you are happy with your birthing partner, if you need one. You've got this.

Your husband, hopefully by now has been told to Fuck Off by your brother and sister in law. The situation with him can wait until after baby is born.

Don't let him have the power of being involved in your life before that. I think you have said you have access to personal money, hopefully this is the case.

His needs come last now. He's let all of you down. He will no doubt try to manipulate his way back in. Try not to let that happen.

You have done nothing wrong. Some men are just complete bastards who don't deserve what they have.

Ignore the posts about harms to your children. They will not be harmed. They have a strong mother, that's what they need right now and for all of their lives. You've got this.

I'm not sure if there will be space on this thread for you post further if and when you want to . If you find it helpful then post a follow on thread. But you don't owe any of us anything.

Stay strong .

I'm so sorry OP. Stay strong x

OP the shame is 1000% on him. You didn't suspect, because you trusted him - and you trusted him because that's what we do in a relationship.
Look after yourself and your children. The next chapter will feel brutal at times but you'll come out of it stronger and happier - and happiness is the best revenge.

Please take that shame and embarrassment and hand it back to him because it solely belongs to HIM ! You have nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed about ! You deserve so much more than this ! Much love to you and your littles during this time sending so much love 💐

So sorry this is happening to you x

I’m very sorry, but glad you have family support.

Op I'm so sorry. I'm a bit further down the road than you are currently and I just wanted to say that you are so much stronger than you might feel right now. That you will absolutely survive this and you didn't deserve this at all. Take all the support you can get and don't hide his dirty laundry for him. You're going to be OK it'll just take some time.

Didn’t want to read and run. The worst days are ahead so please be as kind to yourself as possible, I’m so sorry you are going through this. Best of luck to you and will be thinking of you.

So sorry. No time to find out is good. But short before Christmas and the birth of your second child seems even worse.
Try to stay strong and remember this is on him and his failings, and nothing to do with you. 💐

Any update OP

Ah give the girl a break!!

Thinking of you OP. Stay strong