I know his secret but how do I play this?

[Waffletots]

I have been married for five years to who I thought was a wonderful man, we have a child and one on the way.
Last night I received a text from his female coworker telling me that “she’s sorry to be that person…. But has been sleeping with me for nearly a year, he told me he would leave you” apparently she feels bad because another coworker “let slip” that my husband and I are expecting again in a few weeks time.
Now I haven’t even confronted my husband about this, it’s been easy as he left for work early this morning and will arrive home around 6pm. I feel sick at the thought of seeing him, could she be lying? I honestly haven’t seen any signs, he’s mentioned this woman a few times and mentioned she’s the office flirt but I didn’t think anything of it.
What should I do?! I’m scared to speak to my friends and family about this, what if she’s lying?!

Exactly! A year long affair, bed selfies, lies and this poster says ‘oooh, just see what he says’. Absolutely fucking not. It never ceases to amaze me how many low standard people there are out there.

You are the only one with a problem with the post. Think about that.

what happened next?

@babyproblems Please READ THE FULL THREAD before replying, she has been sent proof. You click on "See all" on the very first post and it will take you to only the OPs post and replies on this thread, if you don't want to or have time to RTFT. Here is the link for the OP's replies on here: https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/amibeingunreasonable/5226374-i-know-his-secret-but-how-do-i-play-this?postsby=Waffletots

I don't think she is the only one tbf

Deeply sorry for this situation you have found yourself in. I'm heartbroken for you. The stress you will be under is untold. Especially as you are so close to giving birth. I'm so relieved that you are getting support from your Brother tonight. You need it most definitely. God bless you. Will be thinking of you. 🙏

At this point, the thread will fill up before OP even has a chance to come back and tell us what happened, @Waffletots

What a weird way of looking at this!

I'd just fuck the bastard out!

Oh gosh. How dreadful. What a bellend.

Most of this thread is people arguing, screaming RFTF and then the same posters begging people not to fill the thread up so op can return. Despite spending pages getting stuck into bun fights.

Appalling behaviour. Half the issue in this thread is people screaming RFTF. I wouldn’t return if I was op.

Oh I very very much doubt it. I'm not trawling through the thread to check it out for you though.

You think about it. Regarding a poster's devastation as a source of entertainment is beyond disgusting and anyone who thinks otherwise should be deeply ashamed of themselves! It turns my stomach personally!

What an awful situation to be in. Especially with you being so heavily pregnant. So sorry that this has happened to you. I'm glad you have family who are able to come and give you support.

What a strange way to look at this clear situation. He was the one that broke the contract with his wife. So much focus on the OW isn’t necessary. He had choices & he chose to have a year long affair. He broke the rules, he broke the trust. Things will never be the same again & that’s the fault of her husband who should’ve had the deepest loyalty to her, not the stranger OW.

The person who did the destroying is the ‘D’H

I wouldn't either but I hope she does, because there is a lot of support for her here. However, if someone was regarding my marital breakdown as some form of "entertainment" then I wouldn't blame the OP for not coming back.

Hopefully @Waffletots you are getting plenty of real-life support and hugs, because that's what matters.

There is some utter bullshite being posted, that much I can say!

OP I'm so sorry to read this. I'm glad you have your brother and sister-in-law to support you.

Just want to say OP that you’ve neither been blind nor a fool.

What’s the alternative - every time he goes on a work trip or works late, you go through his phone and demand evidence?

That’s abusive psycho behaviour and you’d never do it. You just took the man you married for his word, and trusted him to keep the promises he made to you and your babies. That makes him foolish, not you.

You’re clearly a fantastic mummy who cares deeply about her children, and thinks about them before yourself every time. That will get you through this. It’ll all be all right in the end ❤️ you’ve got this.

I am so sorry this has happened to you but also so glad you have found this out now so you don’t need to have him at the birth! I echo everything everyone else has said about how you will move past this but I completely get how right now you can’t see past the next few days. Sending love.

I’m so sorry. What a super shit he is. The pair of them are horrible. But you and your child/baby are what matters now. I’m wishing you strength and good people around you to lean on.

To the posters saying "no way did she believe him, she is just bitter"

You would be surprised. MN is not the wide world.

MAny many women fall for the "we are splitting up but because we need to sell the house we are living there until it sells" (how many threads on MN saying "How can I live in the same house as him until the house sells?!" its a modern phenomenon) "We havent had sex for several years" "My son would be heartbroken if I moved out just like that so I am spending more time at my parents and doing it gently" or the absolute killer "she is seeing someone as we are not together anymore but we keep it away from our son".

My cousin fell for this. She was working with him, absolutely certain that he was leaving her.....until it came out at work that the woman he hadnt had sex with in several years was 6 months pregnant with their third child, cousin thought he only had one.

Sounds more to me that the OW realised that the "relationship" she thought she was in was actually her being a side piece to a cheating arsehole and did the right thing. Given that she has sent the OP all she asked for, hasnt been nasty about it and knows that doing what she has will mean that the "D"H will never want to see her again, she seems on the level to me. A woman who fell for his lies and wants to do the right thing by his wife. Good for her.

She won't need him at all. Why would you degrade yourself to stay with your cheating, lying spouse just because you're about to give birth?

Please don’t feel you have to comment on every fucking post. Believe it or not, most of us are more interested in what the OP has to say when she returns than reading your tripe as you fill up the thread.

Why on earth is it tripe to suggest that a woman should have enough self worth to finish a relationship where the husband has, for a whole year, been having a relationship with another woman? Your morals are in the gutter if you think k this is tripe.

I wasn’t referring to the reply to that one post. Rather, the innumerable argumentative posts from that poster. Totally derailing and if OP comes back for support later there’ll be no thread to return to because of petty squabbles.

op got proof about 4 pages ago