I know his secret but how do I play this?

[Waffletots]

I have been married for five years to who I thought was a wonderful man, we have a child and one on the way.
Last night I received a text from his female coworker telling me that “she’s sorry to be that person…. But has been sleeping with me for nearly a year, he told me he would leave you” apparently she feels bad because another coworker “let slip” that my husband and I are expecting again in a few weeks time.
Now I haven’t even confronted my husband about this, it’s been easy as he left for work early this morning and will arrive home around 6pm. I feel sick at the thought of seeing him, could she be lying? I honestly haven’t seen any signs, he’s mentioned this woman a few times and mentioned she’s the office flirt but I didn’t think anything of it.
What should I do?! I’m scared to speak to my friends and family about this, what if she’s lying?!

You’ve done really well. I’m so glad that you have good support.

I’m pleased that your brother was able to be there for you.

I am so glad you have amazing moral support. You will get passed this, you’re a warrior.

Take things at your pace xx

You've done brilliantly well OP - the self-respect, dignity and determination you've shown is truly inspiring. Your children will have a GREAT role model in you as they grow up and the actions you have already taken and will continue to take over the next few weeks and months will shape their lives in a very positive way. WELL DONE! Wishing all the best things for you and your children in the future and good luck with the birth. 🤗

I just wanted to say that you have done amazingly well, especially while it's all still such a shock. So glad you've surrounded yourself with family to support you and not given the cheat any of your time. Keep your strength. You and your children will be ok.

You’re being so level headed and brave in the face of this. You’ll come out the other side really proud of yourself. I went through a breakup while with an infant too. A long time ago, but I promise this won’t break you. You deserve so much better.

He’s a real shit, and hopefully, by now, he knows it.

So, so sorry your world has been shattered tonight in the most awful way. Glad you have the arms of your family around you whilst you process the coming days.
Your lovely little baby is the most important phase for you now, and I hope the birth is happy.
Everthing else will sort it self out in time.
Take care and remember it will get better, despite the turmoil going on in your head right now.

Thank goodness for your brother OP, I am sure he wanted to knock your husband's block off and had to restrain himself. Please create a second thread as this one is almost full so we can keep up to date with how you're going. I'm sending best wishes and thoughts to you and your unborn baby (and other child and B and SIL too).

You’ve done absolutely amazing. Your brother sounds fantastic. Look after yourself.

I'm so sorry to hear this OP. You have done amazingly well. Take care of yourself and just concentrate on the birth of your baby for now.

Take it easy @Waffletots be kind to yourself, you have shown such dignity and strength already. ❤💐

What an absolutely amazing brother and sister in law you have.

You and your babies will be just fine with your family around you. Hope all goes well with the birth, and you can enjoy Christmas the best you can.

Keep strong what an awful person he is .

@Waffletots you need to make another thread this one is full

Your parents will be flabbergasted…..but only for a minute as their immediate concern will be YOU, your child and impending lovely new baby.
You are blessed to have a family around you to support you in the coming weeks which is amazing.
The rest will sort out in time…x

So he's run off and left you very pregnant with a young child. What a winner (not).

You are doing amazing, keep focussing on your babies. Your family sound amazing, they will help get you through this mess. Take one day at a time.

Head held high now, you have done nothing wrong, this is all him and the despicable human being he is. Better to know what he's really like now, than even further down the line.

Just wanted to send you some love and flowers ♥️💐💐.

Thank God you have supportive family. Please transfer 50% of your savings account ASAP and screenshot any loans, mortgage docs, credit cards, car payments, direct debits, etc with your name on them.
You’re going to need this for your solicitor. I know you have two weeks left but this is going to vital right now while the iron is hot. You want to get him while he is still feeling ashamed and embarrassed - before he gets bitter. There is a pattern to how he will behave. The sooner he signs, the better it will be for you.

Or she's crazy. I turned her down that's why she's doing this. My boss used to call it the married man's guidelines and bible.

You couldn’t have handled last night better if you tried.
I hope everything goes well for your birth & little one stays comfortable for another few weeks. Be kind to yourself, this is a LOT for anyone, let alone 38wks.

You were so right to pack his bag rather than go yourself. I’m sure the many women that find your thread in the future will be inspired by your strength. Sending hugs x

Well done.. you've been brilliant and so sensible. I'm glad that you have good support. Your bil and his wife sound like excellent support to have.
Iv been where you are now lovely. It hurts like hell but your are strong. Be brave.. you're doing marvellously

@Waffletots, thank you for letting us know how you’re doing. I’ve been thinking of you tonight here in the U.S.

Your so-called Husband is such a nasty piece of work. His abuse of you is unspeakable. He is ‘that guy’, a pretender who cheats on his pregnant Wife (and children) and allows her to hear all about it at 38 weeks from his mistress. That he hasn’t sent you any sort of message after your great trauma shows what a cowardly low-life he is.

I so admire your gumption, @Waffletots. Although shattered, you have shown the courage of your convictions and are a wonderful example to your children. Your DB and SIL are also ace.

Bless yourself with as much self-care as possible during these tough days. ❤️

I’m so sorry he has done this to you. Wishing you a beautiful and happy birth and nothing but joy with your children in the future. It’s his loss x

What a strong, dignified woman you are ! You are an inspiration to all of us who have been treated badly in a relationship. As painful as it must be one day you will look back and realise it was a blessing in disguise, that relationship he has with his mistress is doomed . You will have your beautiful children and he now has lost it all ! Stupid man !

💐💐💐 Op

OP, sending you hugs. You are a very brave and dignified woman. Your husband has likely made the biggest mistake of his life. What an arsehole.