I know his secret but how do I play this?

[Waffletots]

I have been married for five years to who I thought was a wonderful man, we have a child and one on the way.
Last night I received a text from his female coworker telling me that “she’s sorry to be that person…. But has been sleeping with me for nearly a year, he told me he would leave you” apparently she feels bad because another coworker “let slip” that my husband and I are expecting again in a few weeks time.
Now I haven’t even confronted my husband about this, it’s been easy as he left for work early this morning and will arrive home around 6pm. I feel sick at the thought of seeing him, could she be lying? I honestly haven’t seen any signs, he’s mentioned this woman a few times and mentioned she’s the office flirt but I didn’t think anything of it.
What should I do?! I’m scared to speak to my friends and family about this, what if she’s lying?!

So sorry OP, just read your update. What a prick. Sending you strength and glad you have family around you.

How did things go

I expect not great but really think you did the right thing

I allowed mine the time to explain after he did that and it was all the typical lies etc

Really hope your OK xx

It would be nice to have an update, OP.
This thread could be useful in the future to women who find themselves in the same conundrum.

I’m sure she will update when she’s ready. But she’s had a humongous shock and she’s heavily pregnant so I expect she’s bloody shattered…. Give her some time!

U give me a break

What an absolute scumbag that man is.

OP when you tell your family it might feel instinctive to protect him from their opinions as you've been very loyal to him all this time but please don't protect him from the consequences of his actions and lean on your family for support.

Waffle, I have just read all your posts on here. I am so, so sorry that you’re going through this - just devastating for you. You are not stupid, you are not a fool. He did this, this is the choice he made. He’s the fool, he really is.

Don't put that onto the OP, her life has been turned upside down.

I’m so sorry this had happening to you at such a vulnerable time.

I wouldn’t rush into saying anything. Take the time to think about what you want to do. Once you confront him he has time to start making excuses and covering his tracks. Take the time to get any evidence you need so he can’t just completely deny it and turn it around on you for not trusting him etc. It’s likely the will try to gaslight you.

Also once you confront him, he can then start preparing for the possibility of you leaving him by draining joint bank accounts etc. and you lose any upper hand. Much better that you make a decision and prepare for that before you confront him.

Please read the full thread with OPs further replies, she already has the evidence, @Plum02 .

I’m so sorry this is happening to you and I hope you treat yourself with kindness and have a loving family, friends around you! Stay strong and look after yourself xxx

Don't tell me what I can or can't say.

What an awful shock.

Can leave space for op to update on here? This is her thread.

You think it's acceptable to say to a heavily pregnant woman who has just found out that her husband has been cheating on her that she should come back to the thread and give everyone the sordid details about what happened this evening because she might help someone else out in the future??

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If she is an amoral, flirty woman, intent on bedding other women's husbands, she could be lying; I would have to find out the truth.
Be aware, take notice, collect data, use your husband for as much spade work and help around the house and with the childcare as you can - you needn't suffer exhaustion as well as bereavement. Take your time.

Find out the truth and work out a way for you to proceed that you can cope with. You need support, attentive friends and family and the solid foundation of a home as well.

Stop being a dick.

OP's life has just fallen apart, she'll update when she's good and ready.

Eh???
Have you read OPs posts and updates?
OW has actually provided screen shots.

Why did you do this, @countrybumpkunt .

👍

Tbh I really just want to know how you are? X

You’re so strong OP, you will look back on this and be proud on how you handled it. It will all get easier I promise!

Thank you everyone, I’m so overwhelmed by all the support and as I can’t sleep, it’s helped me to read these messages to know I’ve done the right thing. My brother and sister in law have also been an amazing support, my brother has agreed to tell our family about what’s happened so I don’t have to relive this every time I speak to someone, I’m grateful for that.
My husband arrived home, I had sent him the messages whilst he was outside as I planned, he did read them and sat in the car for a good ten minutes after opening them, I didn’t see him as I didn’t want to but my brother was giving me a running commentary from the window. As soon as he got out of the car my brother took him the bag, I didn’t want him in the house or to look at his stupid, lying, cheating face. He didn’t protest and drove off after another few minutes. I haven’t heard a word from him since. No messages, no calls. Nothing. This actually helps me to process it, I think I’ve had enough bull shit for one day. Maybe this is what they both wanted? So much is going round in my head. All I know is I have a lot to do and I hope this baby stays put for another few days! My sister in law is going to be my birthing partner and my mum was coming in too anyway (I haven’t told my parents yet about any of this as they have my child who I’m trying to protect) but I plan to go around with my brother tomorrow whilst my sister in law has my three year old. What a mess!