Male colleague claiming my work??

[Gcn]

I'm not sure if I'm being over sensitive. I'm taking forward a project in work, which involved initial meeting with another department. For some reason male colleague got included in meeting arrangements and although I made it clear he wasn't required, he came along. Fine. We agreed some actions which I've been working on with my team.

He's just emailed my team, my boss and next in line about the project. He's presented it as work he's initiated and given his (i.e. MY) suggestions for how we should develop this. Fucking cheek!!!!! He's just included me in the email in the same way as my team members (so not even recognised I've been involved in the discussion to date - never mind that it was all my idea!!!)

What would you do?

I’m pretty enough to email back “Thank you for summarising I’m glad you agree xxx is the way forward “

Respond, moving yourself into the to: field not cc: and begin the email by thanking your colleague for summarising your suggestions, and confirm to your boss that you’ll follow up with relevant parties to take it forward.

End with ‘thanks male colleague, dropping you out of this chain as it’s better we take this forward with a more streamlined group’.

Send a follow up email to all along the lines of
"Thanks for capturing my plans, I appreciate the time you've put in to sending them to everyone.
Are you going to be free to continue capturing my plans and outcomes of action, throughout thus project?
If so, it would be great to catch up and work out the best way of you supporting the team"

You can’t keep quiet, OP. Does this guy have the same line manager as you? Regardless, how supportive will the LM be if you quietly tell them the truth?

Does your team know the truth? Next steps depend somewhat on the lie of the land. Hang in there and think up a good strategy for incinerating this ….. guy

“Thank you for taking and distributing the minutes of the meeting. I’ll let you know if my next one…”

'Thankyou for taking the meeting minutes and for summarising my plans and proposals for the project.'

I rather like @ClaudiaWankleman 's response. Puts him in his place while simultaneously getting rid of him.

^This. I've had this happen with female colleagues too, so it's not confined to males! Just take control of the messaging.

That made me laugh! My team know the truth, I've already spoke to them about the work.

Not the first time he's done something like this, but I have to keep working with him...

@Gcn who included him in the initial meeting arrangements??? was it his boss?? are the bosses trying to elevate him to a higher position?? is he related to any of the bosses? I think I would be speaking to the bosses to see what is happening here! I would not be accepting this shit!

He is relying on you being too polite and not wanting to cause a stir.

@ClaudiaWankleman has nailed the response. It’s clear and professional and gets rid of him.

I've replied, explaining what I've done so far and apologising to him for not involving him as I didn't think he'd was going to have an active role.

Did you reply all? And did you put in any of the comment suggested to show that he didn’t actually do this work?

Sounds like the kind of person to take a mile if you give an inch.

Best to stand up to this type of creep or he'll keep taking the mickey.

You definitely need to reply all and thank him for sending the minutes + the suggestion above of saying you will continue with a reduced mailing list.

I have a similar situation, but as a female and other females are claiming my work. They will mention things I have said in previous meetings and pass it off as their own and suddenly it’s a great idea and they’re praised. I don’t get it.

Man steals Woman's work.

Woman APOLOGISES to Man.

🤦‍♂️

He didn't apologise to you taking credit for your work, why would you apologise to him? He will keep doing this if you let him.

I don’t think it was a sincere apology. More like brushing him off (hopefully)

Woman doesn't say what she means.

Who included him in the meeting arrangements?

Why did you apologise?

Oh dear OP, you missed your chance there!

This is perfect

i understand your frustrations but it seems he took the initiative and got their first ?

thats if im reading the op correctly