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Cowoker has given me the silent treatment

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user1471867483 · 20/11/2024 11:47

I work in an office with 7 others. We were all given tasks to do but a coworker called me out on something (in front of all and loudly).
According to her I had done something wrong (which I hadn’t - she’s not even my boss) and I explained back in front of all that it wasn’t me who had to done ‘the error’. Anyway, I emailed her saying, “Can’t believe what you said earlier. I felt stupid in front of all and it wasn’t like you. I felt embarrassed”. She replied, “It wasn’t aimed at you (yeah, right) and sorry you felt embarrassed and it was nothing to do with you and it wasn’t my intention”. She then gave an eye roll, came over, hugged me.
However, she has stopped all communication with me. I couldn’t let how she treated me go and I’m glad I voiced up to her, but now I’ve got the silent treatment from her. Is there anything I should do?

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Mummypie21 · 20/11/2024 11:50

I would just be civil and professional but not engage with her outside of that. She seems passive-aggressive.

Abhannmor · 20/11/2024 12:48

Leave it for now. She is probably embarrassed?

OutVileJelly1 · 20/11/2024 12:52

Mummypie21 · 20/11/2024 11:50

I would just be civil and professional but not engage with her outside of that. She seems passive-aggressive.

This.
Plus an immature little game player.
Watch your back

DemonicCaveMaggot · 20/11/2024 12:57

Don't do anything. I assume she is embarrassed at making a fool of herself. She'll either get over it or die mad. I would continue being polite and professional and act like she isn't giving you the silent treatment. If she wants to create an atmosphere in the office it's down to her, don't get involved in it.

TwattyMcFuckFace · 20/11/2024 12:57

You said she called you out but she's saying it wasn't aimed at you.

I can't quite picture what happened?

Did she address you personally or not?

CustardySergeant · 20/11/2024 12:59

I don't understand how she could say it had nothing to do with you. You said "she called me out on something (in front of all and loudly). According to her I had done something wrong".

How on earth could she then say it wasn't aimed at you and nothing to do with you? That makes no sense at all.

user1471867483 · 20/11/2024 13:04

TwattyMcFuckFace · 20/11/2024 12:57

You said she called you out but she's saying it wasn't aimed at you.

I can't quite picture what happened?

Did she address you personally or not?

Absolutely she did.

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user1471867483 · 20/11/2024 13:05

TwattyMcFuckFace · 20/11/2024 12:57

You said she called you out but she's saying it wasn't aimed at you.

I can't quite picture what happened?

Did she address you personally or not?

Of course it was aimed at me. She's just not owning it.

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user1471867483 · 20/11/2024 13:06

OutVileJelly1 · 20/11/2024 12:52

This.
Plus an immature little game player.
Watch your back

Thanks. I like this reply. Even another coworker emailed me saying it wasn't right what this coworker said to me. Glad I voiced.

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TwattyMcFuckFace · 20/11/2024 13:53

user1471867483 · 20/11/2024 13:04

Absolutely she did.

So what did she say when you pointed out that she'd personally addressed you?

How can she do that and claim it wasn't aimed at you?

OutVileJelly1 · 20/11/2024 13:58

It is passive agressive to the core - to do something then deny deny deny or feign ignorance - fuck this woman

roastiepotato · 20/11/2024 14:00

If it carries on it counts as bullying

user1471867483 · 23/11/2024 18:41

CustardySergeant · 20/11/2024 12:59

I don't understand how she could say it had nothing to do with you. You said "she called me out on something (in front of all and loudly). According to her I had done something wrong".

How on earth could she then say it wasn't aimed at you and nothing to do with you? That makes no sense at all.

Exactly 🤷. Of course it was aimed at me. Even my other co-worker witnessed it.

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