To find me attractive

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At just under 14 stone and 5'7', do you think it's possible that any man will find me attractive. I'm relatively in proportion. But my belly can swell ridiculously .
I feel terrible about myself but have joined the gym and running club and am cutting calories but I feel just awful.
I'm average but make an effort with clothes and grooming but cannot shame this awful feeling .
Anything positive here?

Yes!

If you feel fitter you’ll be more confident and then more attractive. Feeling happy in what you’re wearing also helps.

I think if you find yourself attractive then others do too.
It’s a confidence thing.

The most important thing is how you feel about yourself, and you don’t seem to be happy.

Yes, some men (especially ones carrying a little extra weight) don't mind having a partner that is the same. Some prefer it!

If you don't feel happy, then I hope your weight loss really helps with your self confidence.

Oh and I'm 51!

I'm the same height as you an slightly heavier I'm probably a bit older. The other day someone referred to me as a bit of alright .

I did notice my hair looked good that day.

Well I’m 5’ 5” and was heavier than you when I met my husband and I was going through a bit of a purple patch.

Will every man like you? No. Will a man you like be attracted to you? Maybe, maybe not. But that’s life.

In my experience if you are at a weight where you still look ‘human’ (I am not currently - I’ve put on masses of weight over the last 19 years) and make yourself look nice and feel good there will be men who find you attractive.