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Missing someone that’s toxic for you

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Sugarplummama · 23/09/2024 13:04

We were best friends for about 6 years. Had our DC’s at the same time and spoke a lot. Friendship was great 90% of the time but 10% of the time she was rude and judgemental.

We had issues in the past with her over stepping, opinions on what I did and constantly messaging. She put a lot of stress on me, and I ended up stopping the friendship because she took it to far. It was the last straw. She also hurt a couple other of our mutual friends who refuse to talk to her.

6 months have past and I’m staring to miss her terribly, despite knowing she brought a lot of stress. I miss her DC too. She was there for me a lot, despite being a pain.

I think I’d BU to reach out and need to get over it, has anyone ever been in this situation?

OP posts:
cerebuswannabe · 23/09/2024 13:05

Why would you want to reinvite stress back into your life!

Sugarplummama · 23/09/2024 13:07

cerebuswannabe · 23/09/2024 13:05

Why would you want to reinvite stress back into your life!

Honestly, I don’t and I won’t reach out but I can’t help the pangs of missing her and I don’t know why!

OP posts:
toomuchfaff · 23/09/2024 15:53

You don't miss her, you're bored or you're wanting to self sabotage. Either way you need to find a hobby or something to do.

Conkersinautumn · 23/09/2024 15:57

It doesn't sound ideal. But some of those issues might be about your boundaries, not all though.
How did she upset people?
How are you at keeping friends further 'out'?
Has she reached out to you?

PassingStranger · 23/09/2024 15:57

Yes, sort of. I haven't messaged, for one I'm not sure I want too, secondly what if they don't reply or are rude, what will you think?
Could you cope with it or would it make you feel worse?
Sometimes let it be is best.

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