To ask to be left alone?

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Premenstrual and on first month of HRT so hormones still need to settle. Always get a bit irritable for 2 days before my period, i don't snap/ shout or bother anyone . Im a quiet person and like my own space.

Needy husband is angry because he wants me to lie down and have a cuddle and i've rejected him. I gave him a quick hug earlier.

Ive told him nicely i don't want to be touched, Im not a touchy person anyway. It's not him ( after 6 years together he should understand pmt now surely?)

I just want to potter about the house doing the housework and when i get my period i'll feel better. I told him he's BU but he says it's me. What do you think?

YANBU at all. I'm the same.
Completely understand not wanting to be touched, particularly when you've got pmt!
Nothing wrong with needing space either.
I'd think he should be able to understand that by now, it's not like it's an unreasonable thing to ask at all.

YANBU. Even without the PMT, he's not respecting your boundaries. Being angry with you is a completely inappropriate reaction.

Urgh that's so icky. I'd talk to him calmly about it. You aren't his toy

Yes he should be apologetic not angry

This. You don’t owe him touch if you don’t want it.

Why are you married to a man like this?

They never just want to lie down for a cuddle either. YANBU

he wants me to lie down and have a cuddle

In the middle of the afternoon?

Buy him a teddy bear and tell him to fuck off.

Lol i know! Poor lamb is hungover but 1st drink in a week after doing a heavy week of night shifts. Im thinking 'get up' and leave me alone