Who should get up?

[autienotnaughty]

At about midnight Dh asked where ds ipad is. I realised it's in boot of my car. Dh suggested I go now but we were both in bed so I said no. On a weekend ds comes in our bed and watch's cartoons on iPad for a bit. But it's my lay in . Dh will be getting up at 730 with ds I can have longer. I feel dh should get iPad when ds comes in as it will be near to his wake time. Dh feels I should as I left it in my car. Who's right?

He’s right I think on the basis you left it in the car.

You left it in the car so you go and get it

If it was you that left it in the car then I’d say it would need to be you to collect it. I’d have just done it at midnight so it wouldn’t affect your long lie.

If you were both up at midnight why are you worrying about it now ? TBH 7:30 doesn't strike me as super early, why does he need the IPAD at that time? Why not just get up with him and play/ do breakfast ?

He has asd so it's a bit of a routine. He gets cuddles in bed and15mins cartoons. Then dh takes him down for breakfast.

I know you're right I just don't want to get up. I would probably offer if it were dh lay in.

You’ve posted this at 538, you’re clearly awake and not trying to get back to sleep. Just get the iPad.

Instead of posting on mn you could go get the ipad

This. What a depressing marriage where you have to point score rather than do anything potentially helpful for the other person.

Indeed is DS the only one who needs routine ?

But you're awake now.... I'm confused, why is this so difficult?

You get it, you left it in the car.

You should...you left it in the car.

Also you were awake at just after 5am, why didnt you just go and get it then?!

If he has ASD and you want your lie in then you go get it!

(I'm assuming as it's in your car then you left it there!)

This ^^

You were awake before 6am so weren't getting a lie in anyway? You could easily have just gone and grabbed it either at midnight or when you woke up.

This must be a reverse.