Anyone never married/long-term single? Can we hear some good points?

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I like being careful with my money, I'm not tight, but I'm not into blowing it on fancy dinners and stuff.
Something I found difficult was exes wanting to spend more money than I was comfortable with and feeling pressured into doing so, and inevitably doing so.
What I love about being single is that I'm in total control of my money.

Snoring- this seems to be something universal that women are expected to put up with. We didn't have a spare room so there were many nights on the sofa.

Difficult in-laws. Majority have been lovely, but there was one mother with whom when we were eating, I felt like we were eating with the Royal Family and the slightest 'mistake' at the dinner table would mean you were looked down upon with scorn. MIL regularly commenting on my weight 'Oh you've lost weight!' I was always a size 8 the whole time I knew her.

These are just some things I don't miss, would love to hear more :)

You sound amazing!
I do think some people feel threatened by happy, successful and single women.

but they would if asked to do so?
what a weird 'gotcha.'
you're confusing 'things someone might do involuntarily' with 'perfectly normal questions for someone to reply to.'
Looking at some random trending topics on MN I wouldn't randomly sit down and write a little paragraph about my experience of breastfeeding or conception or my plans for my summer wardrobe or my thoughts on a complete strangers relationship in a notebook, apropos of nothing, but I might reply to those topics on here if they flagged my interest.
That is how a chat forum works...

MN moderators commented on this thread.

I left the thread as a result as things clearly weren't going to end well.

If people are going to quote me, I feel I have a legitimate right to return as 'this is how a chat forum works.' I'm sure MN moderators would agree.

If I'm quoted again, I shall reply. I feel that that is my right.

This thread basically has a main plot and a sub plot.

The sub plot is really dull.

It's probably a misogyny rule - women must front and centre men and their feelz in women's lives even when they're talking about not fronting and centring men and their feelz in women's lives.

Even schoolboy dullards get that one.

I really don't think they do.

I feel that some of them do.
They seemed to relish writing a list of the multiple ways their ex was shit.

I fully accept that their ex may have been shit in all the ways they say.

But I do think a list of ways my ex was shit is different to the positives of being single.

Many people on this thread have written eloquent posts that give clear advantages. Some have not.

As someone who was a terminal relationship-er and has now been single since 2020...

PEACE. No anxiety about whether someone will/wont text you back. (For those in the early dating life?l)

No responsibility for making sure someone has food at a time they need it. (For those in a relationship)

Doing whatever you want, when you want. Not answerable to anyone.

Generally just a more independent and self focused life.

Love everything about being single except how expensive it is.

(I’m gay, so living with a man was never on the cards. Some of the things on this thread have had me recoiling in horror!)

Not every answer to the OP's question has to be universally applicable, and individual experiences often resonate with many other people.

Nobody appointed you the thread police and your responses are boring and self-absorbed interruptions in a thread that is otherwise interesting to single people, ie really nothing to do with you.

👏👏

So why do people keep responding to me then?

I said pages ago, if you ignore me I'll.go away. But people quoting me.

I know I'm not the thread police. Disagreeing isn't the same as policing other people.

Please, please, please can I beg people to ignore me!

People keep responding to you so as to defend themselves - quite rightly. You didn't need to come on here in the first place but you chose to do so, so you need to take the flak.

You have basically tried to piss on everybody's parade, but it hasnt worked. You are also, in my opinion, gaslighting by saying "the lady doth protest too much" when everybody is saying how happy they are, which is a polite way of saying they are lying.

At least you seem to be proving the point quite nicely of why so many women prefer to stay single!

Nobody needs to come onto any thread.

I am happy to take flak.

I'm only replying to comments that directly quote me. If anybody directly quote another poster they are inviting a reply.

People are free to ignore me if they feel I am irrelevant. But people keep quoting me.

I've tried to leave this thread 3 times but I keep being invited back.

Curious - why can't you wear jeans in a relationship?

PP has answered this upthread. Basically, her ex was an image-obsessed twat.

Never actually called him that before in so many words but good call 😆

Yes, but how can women really be happy without the menz??? (Only true in their heads, obvs.)