Anyone never married/long-term single? Can we hear some good points?

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I like being careful with my money, I'm not tight, but I'm not into blowing it on fancy dinners and stuff.
Something I found difficult was exes wanting to spend more money than I was comfortable with and feeling pressured into doing so, and inevitably doing so.
What I love about being single is that I'm in total control of my money.

Snoring- this seems to be something universal that women are expected to put up with. We didn't have a spare room so there were many nights on the sofa.

Difficult in-laws. Majority have been lovely, but there was one mother with whom when we were eating, I felt like we were eating with the Royal Family and the slightest 'mistake' at the dinner table would mean you were looked down upon with scorn. MIL regularly commenting on my weight 'Oh you've lost weight!' I was always a size 8 the whole time I knew her.

These are just some things I don't miss, would love to hear more :)

Your own post says "My rant in a nutshell."

This with bells on. 😊

@Hateam This is a genuine question- why does it bother you so much? I don’t really get why people like kayaking but I don’t hijak kayaking threads to post “Dunno, looks a bit shit and wet to me. You must all be lying.”

I'm not bothered.
Just made an observation.

The snoring definitely.

The lack of body hair everywhere (ex was hairy, and shed as much as the cats do)

Not having to consult someone else before doing something/going somewhere/buying something (well, except for informing him I'm taking the kids somewhere if it's abroad)

The lid is always put back on the toothpaste

The dishwasher is loaded correctly (unless my dad is visiting.. he's very creative.. the kids are trained though)

@Hateam what observation? That you think single women can’t be happy and that one poster clarified what she meant in a previous post?

It’s an observation you’ve come back to make more than once. We get the gist.

Single women can be very happy. I know several.

But if a women is overly keen to tell how amazing it us to be single I think there's a chance she may be saying this to convince herself she's happier being single than she is. That's my observation.

I was personally rude to nobody on this thread but several people (including you) have been rude to me. Feels like I touched a nerve.

11 years post-divorce from a vindictive narc followed by 2 short relationships with complete dicks.

Being single is bliss, absolute bliss. I think the sheer relief of not having to deal with an adult male (apart from ds, who will not be an abusive dick as long as I am alive) is worth the pain of the 30 years that I wasted trying to "fit in" and accommodate complete losers.

Thanks for posting the thread, it has reminded me to never complain if life gets tough. Except about the abusive dicks in government.

If you are a F under 30 reading this, do not fear being single. Words cannot express how free it makes you. Relish it.

Yes they do. Ever heard of a gratitude journal?

No.

K cool.

I've got two kids - and yes, it's full on - I'm looking at 2 months with a total of 24 hours alone time coming up (ex barely bothers to see them)

BUT, at least I'm not being guilted into following him around for work, leading me to have to amuse 2 kids in a hotel room in a foreign country not of my choosing, while he's at work all day and socialising with colleagues all evening. And they're getting older, so it's easier now anyway, they're each capable of cooking dinner for instance.

When I think about getting a bloke again, I realise that'll mean an expectation to shave various bits, to make time (I have very little time between work and children) and to generally pander to him, and my nose just wrinkles up that little bit, and I just can't be bothered.

Long-term single with one child at home. For me, life is far less complicated as a single person/single parent than when in a relationship.
I'm, indeed, happier (contrary to a singular opinion!) for many of the reasons stated above.
Added to which, I'm raising a happy and well-adjusted teen, who is surprisingly quite indifferent to, and unfazed by, the lack of a 2nd parent in her life. Possibly due to a peaceful and content home life and loving involved extended family.

All of the above and I'm in charge of the remote. No having to compromise on anything. I can do what I like when I like with whoever I like.

@Hateam I disagree. Telling people that they are kidding themselves about their own experience is the height of condescension and rudeness. If people were rude to you they were only repaying you in kind.
The thread was asking for good points about being single, and posters were obliging. You are, of course, entitled to an opinion, but it would be naive not to think you might get challenged on it.

I'm healthiest when single. So much easier to eat well, rest more, go to bed early etc as you say.

Only thing, I don't have very many friends at all so get lonely..

For those single + young child, how does that compare versus being single and no/grown up children?

I'm not too sure what Bolt ya rocket means but it sounds a bit like fuck off.

Where was I rude to you?

Good point lamanama. Whilst I can identify with many of the positives raised in these posts, single parenthood can be very lonely. I raised my son alone and always worked full time( and more) to support us. However, as a single parent, I was completely responsible for emotional, practical and financial aspects and that can be overwhelming. I know that being in a longterm relationship/marriage can bring challenges but I think it's important to acknowledge that single parenthood is hard. Several of my friends and family members have battled the storms of long marriages but are pretty content after the children are grown up.
My son has grown up and I have a partner now (non resident) so I can identify with alot of the points raised re own space/own choices/financial independence etc but I think it's important to acknowledge that some circumstances of being single aren't without challenges!

Do one.

Definitely touched a nerve.

My kingdom for an ignore poster button, MN. And that right soon.

I'm 5 years single now. Honestly I love it. I live with my 6 year old. Our house is pretty and girly. Why would I want a man to leave his pants lying around and the toilet seat up. Ick.

Being single is bliss, absolute bliss. I think the sheer relief of not having to deal with an adult male (apart from ds, who will not be an abusive dick as long as I am alive) is worth the pain of the 30 years that I wasted trying to "fit in" and accommodate complete losers

It means you don't have to deal with men who have the debating skills of especially irritating 15 years olds, either; and who think their opinion is so important they try to hijack a thread thats FA to do with them with their bar-room bore wisdom.

You don't need one.

Just stop responding to me and I'll go away!

And you called me illiterate.