Anyone never married/long-term single? Can we hear some good points?

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I like being careful with my money, I'm not tight, but I'm not into blowing it on fancy dinners and stuff.
Something I found difficult was exes wanting to spend more money than I was comfortable with and feeling pressured into doing so, and inevitably doing so.
What I love about being single is that I'm in total control of my money.

Snoring- this seems to be something universal that women are expected to put up with. We didn't have a spare room so there were many nights on the sofa.

Difficult in-laws. Majority have been lovely, but there was one mother with whom when we were eating, I felt like we were eating with the Royal Family and the slightest 'mistake' at the dinner table would mean you were looked down upon with scorn. MIL regularly commenting on my weight 'Oh you've lost weight!' I was always a size 8 the whole time I knew her.

These are just some things I don't miss, would love to hear more :)

Your own bed
Your own front door
Your own money
The food you want
The drink you want
You can socialise like a wild thing or stay in
NO BLOODY FOOTBALL/GOLF
No arguments over holidays
No one gets into debt and you have to bail them out
You can wear jeans
You don't lie awake wondering where the fuck he is/who he's with
You don't cook dinner for seven and he rolls in at midnight
You play the music you want
You watch the telly you want - or you don't
Your choice of decor/homewares/carpet/car/weekend away/pet

<draws breath>

That do for starters?

Oh and the snoring. None of that. None of getting up at 2am and going into the spare room after trying and failing to roll an insensate honking lump onto his side. Alleluia.

I’m not yet ‘longterm’ single, but I’m heading that way because I bloody love being single.

The main thing for me is that I am SO much healthier than when I’m in a relationship.

1. Go to bed early and get 8 hours of sleep every night
2. Wake up early and exercise every morning
3. Eat clean 95% of the time
4. Barely drink (that was more his thing)
5. Stress levels have never been lower - life is peaceful
6. No time wasted on his family and friends and consequently more time to invest in relationships that matter to me

I sometimes can’t believe my luck that I get to live life entirely on my terms. It’s fantastic.

Despite having a soon to be 8 year old, I've never had a relationship and have always been single

I love knowing that I have been able to get to where I am, without anyone

I'm thankful I'm able to afford to pay for things without any support and not worrying about spending and upsetting the other person

I love being able to do as I please

I love being able to be confident on my own and be happy in my own company

I'm proud of being able to be the best mum I can be to my son who's got significant needs, therefore, I'm his carer, his advocate, and his mum. I'm still holding down a job and he's been out of school over two years. I'm proud that I've been able to support him and pay for the best advocate to fight his needs, without relying on money from anyone else. His dad is around but it's all on me, financially, mentally and physically and I'm so bloody proud of myself and my son

I love being able to decorate how I want or not tidy up for a couple of days

I love being able to have a cleaner without having someone telling me I'm lazy or should be doing more in the house

I'm just loving being single with zero stress lol

Peace. And more peace.

Free time! You don’t realise how much time you waste watching tv and films that a partner is more interested in.
also no arguments over washing up/laundry and other stupid little things.

No-one to please but myself.

And I'm very pleased with myself.

If I want to have toast for dinner I can. No one expecting me to provide a “proper” meal every night.

No need to compromise on decisions that matter to me.

100% in charge of my own money.

I'm child free and live alone. I'm in a relationship but we both wish to live apart and I only see him once a week.

I love the peace and quiet. I will never get bored of it.

I can spend my time exactly how I like. If I want to laze around for hours I can. If I want to be messy and productive I can.

I don't have to explain, negotiate or justify my actions or choices with anyone.

I absolutely adore getting into my beautiful bed every night. It's all mine. It's blissful.

The ladies doth protest too much methinks.

I ain't no lady.

That's hilarious.

I don't think they do. I'm in a happy longterm relationship, with a primary school aged child, and although I like my life, I entirely see what the previous posters mean, and see my longtime single friends also glorying in living lives set up to cater precisely to their own wishes and priorities.

You appear to be male and married. What would you know about it?

People who are genuinely happy rarely sit down and write a list of the reasons they're happy.

But this is what the OP asked for. She asked for single women - preferably never married - what they enjoyed about being single.

What else were posters meant to post?! A list of their favourite UK Christmas No 1 hits?! Their favourite places to go for a daytrip? Their favourite type of white wine?!!!

Daft! 😆

Because of course all women long to be couple up and we're just comforting ourselves that we enjoy being single.

And the band played 'believe it if you like.'

'Doth' is single person, by the way. Plural is 'do.'

Except the OP has explicitly ASKED people to sit down and enumerate the good points of being single.

Not bright, this one.

@Hateam And do those happy people post on other threads telling people they’re lying about their own experiences?
Bolt, ya rocket.

Some people come across as over-eager to show how happy they are. It's the obvious over-eagerness that I was commenting on.

Obviously someone's just amusing themselves before bedtime.

Mate, if anything I was understating how happy I am to be single.

So you DIDN'T post:

People who are genuinely happy rarely sit down and write a list of the reasons they're happy.

That wasn't you? There's someone else on this thread with the exact same username as you?

What about mothers gushing about their newborns? A newlywed couple pouring over their wedding photos?
Or is it just single women who could possibly be happy with their lot?

I wanted to keep the quote as similar to the original as possible.

Also, I didn't know doth was singular!