Anyone never married/long-term single? Can we hear some good points?

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I like being careful with my money, I'm not tight, but I'm not into blowing it on fancy dinners and stuff.
Something I found difficult was exes wanting to spend more money than I was comfortable with and feeling pressured into doing so, and inevitably doing so.
What I love about being single is that I'm in total control of my money.

Snoring- this seems to be something universal that women are expected to put up with. We didn't have a spare room so there were many nights on the sofa.

Difficult in-laws. Majority have been lovely, but there was one mother with whom when we were eating, I felt like we were eating with the Royal Family and the slightest 'mistake' at the dinner table would mean you were looked down upon with scorn. MIL regularly commenting on my weight 'Oh you've lost weight!' I was always a size 8 the whole time I knew her.

These are just some things I don't miss, would love to hear more :)

I know many people who are in happy marriages.

Stating that 'relationships make us miserable' is clearly and gross, inaccurate over- simplification.

By us I was referring to us on this thread

But for me, some of the positives of being single are that I'm not with my shit ex any more.

Why is that such an issue for you?

I assumed you meant women in general.

I accept that the relationships women on this thread have had has made them miserable.

I apologise for my mistake.

Obviously it depends on the person.

It's not an issue for me.

But that's a positive for you specifically and not a positive about the general state of being single.

Yes.

See also my other recent post. I misunderstood the poster's meaning and apologised.

Wow, you really do not believe that any woman could possibly be happy without a man.

Please note my use of the word 'some'.

Option 3 works perfectly for me. I have a boyfriend who I mostly see only at the weekends. We have separate houses (obviously), finances and interests. Best of both worlds!

To further clarify.

I believe that some people ( male and female) will be happier in a healthy relationship rather than being single.

But the OP asked for some of the positives of being single. One of those positives is that I'm not with my twat of an ex.

If there was a thread asking long term singletons what they missed about being in a relationship I could list things.

Regardless, I don't understand why you need to come on a thread and tell us all we are wrong/protesting too much. I didn't go on to the thread I saw recently asking "what do you love about your DH" and tell all married women "who are you getting to convince, obviously you aren't really happy"

Considering that these living relationships always involve sex I'm very surprised that nobody on this thread has yet brought up the subject of sex.

I have read a lot of threads on Mum's net about men constantly pestering for sex and women who are slapped and pinched and grabbed by their partners in an affectionate way pretty much all day every day if they're at home together.

I've also experienced it myself. I had a long-term boyfriend who would get quite sulky if I wasn't in the mood. I save a massive amount of time now and lots of awkward moments and upsets and unpleasant episodes by just DIY that takes a couple of minutes with a thing that doesn't argue or sulk or make a mess all over the bed. Or make kinky demands.

I haven't said you are all wrong. My post at 21;04 clearly states that I feel 'Many posters have eloquently described the positives of being single.'

Surely everybody is free to post their thoughts on any thread.

The poster chose to place this thread in AIBU. She asked the question. Doesn't asking the question Am I being unreasonable come with the risk that people might say Yes?

To clarify my last post. I don't feel the OP has been unreasonable. I have raised my eyebrow and commented in relation to some of the replies. That is the risk people take if they post in this section surely?

I agree with all three points in your OP, plus the fucking housework and mental load - they never pull their weight. They just don't.

Ah yes, the sulking about sex, and constant criticisms.

Feels like you're threatened by women talking.

No

What section should it be in then? It could be in Relationships or Chat. But I have a feeling you'd still have commented.

It could be in Relationships or Chat

Whether I would have posted is pointless speculation.

Anyway, it WAS posted on AIBU. Anybody who posts here runs the risk of being told yes.

I don’t see any overly keen women here. I see women talking about what they enjoy about their single life, which is what the OP asked of this thread.

Then that is want you see and I respect that.

I do see some posters who are overly keen to say how many they are being single.

I think that’s probably more your imagination working overtime than what’s actually going on. Why do you feel the need to pass comment in any case?

I don't feel that it is but it's possible. You could say the same for anybody's post.

I clicked on the link out of curiosity and posted my thoughts - probably the same as you.