Anyone never married/long-term single? Can we hear some good points?

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I like being careful with my money, I'm not tight, but I'm not into blowing it on fancy dinners and stuff.
Something I found difficult was exes wanting to spend more money than I was comfortable with and feeling pressured into doing so, and inevitably doing so.
What I love about being single is that I'm in total control of my money.

Snoring- this seems to be something universal that women are expected to put up with. We didn't have a spare room so there were many nights on the sofa.

Difficult in-laws. Majority have been lovely, but there was one mother with whom when we were eating, I felt like we were eating with the Royal Family and the slightest 'mistake' at the dinner table would mean you were looked down upon with scorn. MIL regularly commenting on my weight 'Oh you've lost weight!' I was always a size 8 the whole time I knew her.

These are just some things I don't miss, would love to hear more :)

I've been single since my husband passed away 14 years ago ( was in my 40s).
Yes he snored but I'd give anything to have him back. I snore just as loudly now (I'm 62).
In laws were a bit tricky but they liked me a lot more than their son's ex!
I guess I don't have to consider someone else's opinion about stuff. But I think I was a better person when I was married.
Nothing is worth being with a man who is awful. But my husband wonderful, and I'd much rather have to compromise on a few things than be without him.

Are you always this annoying?

All of the above. Men are totally overrated imo. ( and pretty much surplus to requirements unless donating sperm )

What do you deem the correct amount of enthusiasm for women to show about being single, then, hmmmm?

Are you a bit worried your wife might read the thread and get Ideas?

My personal favourite aspects:

Getting to decorate the house as I like instead of having everything the way my controlling ex wanted or enduring sulks and snippy comments

When I leave the bathroom clean, it's clean when I return to it

Silence. Instead of music blasting at uncomfortable volumes in the car and living room from first thing in the morning

Being able to eat everything I want and not having to accommodate someone else's food fussiness

I have a comfortable amount of savings and know exactly where my money is going instead of looking at the bank account and discovering surprise $500+ expenditures

I’ve been single most of my life, I’m 53. I’ve had a few LTR but they all add up to only a decade of my life.

Ive been single for ten years this time. The best things about it are

-not having to consider anyone else when deciding what I want to do on the weekend

-not having to be “on” all the time. If I want to be a lazy bum all weekend I can do that without feeling guilty

-clean when I want to

-watch whatever I want on tv and I can leave it on and play it as loud as I want to

-not sharing a toilet which is gross

-fart when I want

-have the bed to myself

-not have to make conversation first thing in the morning or after I sign off work

-can talk and laugh as loud as I want

-no more feeling alone even when someone is there

-no one groping me for sex

You posted your mansplaining, diminishing, belittling thoughts over 35 times on this thread.

Being free of this sort of dickish arrogance in one's home is a major bonus of being single.

Given he only let eight posters get their thoughts in on this thread before taking a crack at “some” of them, I really don’t think he is in any position be casting aspersions about people who seem a little too keen to have their opinion heard.

I was pointing out a contradiction.

There is no right amount. Just each person's opinion.

No.

I was asked to respond 35 times.

Spot the bloke.

I didn't 'let' anybody post.

I posted on a thread that had 8 previous posts.

Love It when someone deliberately misses the pojnt cause it’s too hard to address

@Hateam your attempts to derail this thread as are only serving to remind us how we are glad to have men out of our lives! You guys just can’t stand us being strong & independent- it’s clearly a threat to you! You are wasting your time here.

Been single all my life and when I look at the crap some of my friends take from guys I just stretch out in bed and think I’m glad I didn’t do all that.

Could you explain further.

People keep asking me questions.
I have answered them.

Imagine trying to sleep in this heat with some big sweaty snoring mass next to you

You were also asked to "Buzz off." Did not comply with that.

You have made multiple posts, unasked for, with your unwanted and irrelevant opinions. You know nothing of what it is to be a woman, or for the purposes of this thread, a happily single woman.

Talk about tone deaf.

I agree with much of what you have said.

But MN is full of people posting irrelevant and unwanted comments. Everybody is free to ignore them.

If people ask me a question, I'll answer.

Never been married. Single for well over a decade, since my now teenaged daughter was 3. Love being single. I love my own space. Physically and mentally. Life is easier and calmer. I don't feel any need to change that.

Spot on. I'm surprised we haven't had 'they're just pretending to be happy single because they can't get a man.'

Stop feeding it!!!

This is a great thread apart from the derailments.

It's like a fly buzzing around, isn't it?