My cleaner chucked her cigarette butt into our hydrangea bush

[JuneM]

Our cleaner does four hours a week - a couple of weeks ago I noticed a cigarette butt in a small gu pot on our back porch.. very usual as we don’t smoke! I thought it might be the gardeners, my husband mentioned he thought it was the cleaner.

this week, our cleaner who charges £18 per hour went out for a cigarette break, we have cctv at the back, and I saw that she chucked her cigarette butt into our hydrangea bush. I’m not happy about this at all. I think it’s disrespectful and disgusting that I now have to clean up my cleaners dirty cigarette butt.

I also often make her a tea or glass of water, in the past it has irritated me that she doesn’t actually put the cup in the dishwasher and I have to clean it up once she’s gone.

I know we need to raise this with her but what would you do.

AIBU?

Give her something to use as an ashtray outside.

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I'd get a new cleaner, she sounds absolutely shocking!

Provide an ash tray. Or make a rule that she can’t smoke on your property (and then start looking for a new cleaner when she quits).

Lucky cleaner, ‘often’ getting tea or water.

Talk to her, give her an ashtray.

It should.
Sadly this will run for 28 pages with people saying OP shouldn't have a cleaner and maybe the cleaner's anxiety has caused her to lob her fag ends into the hydrangea.

Stop making tea and tell her to use an ashtray, 4 hours a week I'd be asking her not to smoke in my house.

Give her something to use as an ashtray?

Ask her not to smoke when working? I wouldn’t want her stinky fagness in my house, but I accept that might be ott.

I wouldn't be providing ash trays at my non-smoking home and I'd be telling her to take her fag butts with her.

For the record, we do not smoke. I do not have an ash tray and do not see why I should have to provide one which I would then need to clean out.

We also have a porch next to our baby’s nursery and often have the window open so I don’t like the fact she smokes on our property without asking.

Well tell her not to smoke on your property.

Tell her politely that you are a non smoking household ( and that includes the garden ) so could she please not smoke on the premises again.

Perfectly reasonable to request that she doesn’t smoke.

It’s pretty skanky of her to do it while working, tbh.

Wow you sometimes make her a glass of water. The effort that must take!

Ask her to smoke off the premises. I'm a smoker, and I think that's a reasonable request.

She shouldn't have to be told, she shouldn't be doing the cleaning with her dirty smoke hands. Mucky cow.

How many hours a day does she work, tell her not to smoke and she can get her own water. If this is real then stop being taken for a fool

Thank you Amused Maker - I will do that in a text tonight otherwise … another week goes by.

I’m quite intrigued by the nearly 40 percent of people who say I am being unreasonable - would these people really not mind if their cleaning lady chucked her dirty cigarette butt into their garden?

Not at all worried because they are biodegradable! Buy an ash tray

Vile. YANBU at all and I would fire her. She shouldn't be smoking on your property and four hours cleaning can and should be done without a break. Chucking them in your garden shows such disrespect, I would question what other disrespectful things she does in your home.

Tell her you’re a no smoking home Op, but your attitude to a glass or cup being left out after a drink is just over the top .

Oh shhh 🤫

She obviously disrespects you and your property. Dismiss her and find someone else.

Did she set the bush on fire? No. So no problem.
Just bin the cigarette butt and get on with your day.