To be left out of meal

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Theres a group of women at work who've arranged to go out for a meal next Tues. It was either Mon or Tues. I can make Mon but not Tues and one of the others can make Tues but not Mon, so it looks like Tues it is even though I can't come. Aibu to feel a bit miffed by this. Bear in mind the woman who arranges these things was mighty peed off at this other woman last year as she was going through a crisis and she never bothered with her and I was constantly supporting her with messages and visits.

Did the woman you helped out thank you for your support?

Unless you're prepared to organise the event for a night everyone can make then you have to take this on the chin.

Is it an official work do?

It's a thankless task organising work nights out. It's impossible to please everyone. I'd suggest taking on the mantle of organiser yourself for the next one if you don't like the way this one has been organised.

I understand why you feel a bit miffed OP.

Unfortunately it sounds like there wasn't a date that worked for everyone, so sadly someone had to miss out.

You haven't been left out, you can't attend. That's different.

Tuesday is generally a better night for a night out. Less days left to get through if you’re a bit tired from partying on a school night.

You weren’t left out, you were asked but unfortunately the date that suits most people doesn’t suit you. It happens to us all. I couldn’t go to my works Christmas night out last year as I had other plans.

Majority vote wins perhaps Tuesday is also preferable to the others even though they can make both

just organise another date you can make

You haven't been left out because you can't make it, arrange another time