My birthday today!!!

[lobeliahorizon]

Well, it's not today, but is on Sunday. Am I being unreasonable that cards & greetings should be received before Sunday? I have, & have always felt that cards (I love a card!) & good wishes should be be received before a birthday? Once it's gone, it's gone. It's one day, like Christmas. If I get a card after, bank holiday post not withstanding, I feel like chucking it in the bin!! I feel maybe churlishly that the sender doesn't really care, unless they have a genuine reason, I am an afterthought& not worth their attention- consequently I will judge them- & my relationship with them! Am I being unreasonable?

Totally unreasonable. Better late than never.

Yes, you are.

Yes

Wow. Grow up.

Have you been drinking?

Sorry, I think you're being unreasonable...I've never given or received a birthday card before the actual birthday/party. It would never occur to me to give one early tbh

My mum saved up the cards until our birthday and we opened them with our gifts. I thought this was normal. Although Christmas cards were opened when we received them.

when we posted them we did our best for them to arrive on exactly the right day.

I don’t really get cards in the post these days.

I say a lighthearted unreasonable

You're bonkers.

HTH

Erm. It's my birthday on Monday.

I'm not expecting good wishes or cards until the actual day itself.

Even then, I won't perish if it doesn't happen.

How many cards are/were you expecting?

The sender cares a lot if they are sending a grown adult a birthday card, especially if you're not related...so what if it's late. It being late extends your birthday celebrations.

If it's Sunday isn't it most likely that if people have posted you a card it will arrive tomorrow? Otherwise I would imagine I may get card/gift when I see people (if we exchange) be that before or after my birthday. One of my friend's and I always end up doing it late and it's become a thing now that we are extending each other's birthday celebrations!

YABU OP!

@Thedogscollar you sound like my mum 😁

Christ, I hardly get any cards. Who cares if it's late.

Jesus. You need to get over yourself. I am really grateful if someone has bothered to go out, buy a card, stick a stamp on it and go out to post it. Tbh I'm grateful if they remember to text or pop a message on FB. People have busy lives with a lot of their own shit going on. They don't always have the time or brain space for me and that's fine. It doesn't mean they don't care.

Ha ha I only asked as I've had a drink.
OP hasn't been back though.
Disappointed 😞
Strange thread.

By taking an attitude like that you're depriving yourself of the Birthday Week, in which the big day itself merely kicks off the festivities. Someone I know once managed a whole Birthday Season for a big birthday, with multiple parties, weekends away and a tropical holiday. Think big!

@ dogscollar mean comment! No- have you? @ ineedtoclingtosometing, yes maybe I do! Am stewing over perceived slight, probably being a tit. Usually get loads of cards before the day, have a fair few, which I really appreciate. But was expecting some others. Can't help way I feel, but also reading comments, now feel I've obviously overreacted! 😞

You should enjoy the week before AND week after your birthday for cards etc!

Oh for goodness sake lighten up.It was a tongue in cheek comment meant light heartedly over you feeling annoyed at not receiving cards before your birthday!

Hopefully you'll receive a load tomorrow.
Happy Birthday 🎂 plus 💐for Sunday.