To lead people on for fun (Confessional)

[forgivemay]

I have a problem, I have realised this this evening.
I really enjoy the chase is the thing. I love looking and thinking "yes, I really do want you!"
I actually seek it, spending quite a chunk of time scrolling through the different pictures until I see one I like that I get the urge to message.
I click message and always start with the same line, kidding myself this is what I really want...
"Is this still available?" I type. The thrill of waiting to see if the person has seen my message and will choose me or if I'm not the one.
They often reply and seem keen..
Most of the time I ghost them.
I don't know why.

Are you talking about inanimate objects? EBay, vinted, Facebook market place?

Because if so, you’re not leading anyone on. People who sell stuff online receive loads of “is this still available” and then nothing more. You sound strange.

I’m assuming you are talking about people and not objects (people are not objects). If so, maybe you need therapy, as it sounds like you have attachment issues. It’s only fun if it’s fun for everyone involved.

I don't really understand either.

Like on Facebook marketplace etc?

I get loads of these messages from muppets like you who say "is this available" and then nothing.

It's mildly annoying, and you're an arsehole, and a bit weird, for doing it.

Apologies if I've misunderstood, but if this is what you're doing, yes, you're a total pain in the arse. It's just an annoyance no one needs. Grow up.

It’s immaturity and lack of personal development.
Get some good therapy.

Sooooo, you've posted this and then waited with baited breath to see how many replies, then you'll ghost this thread?? 😄😄

That's exactly what OP has done. 😁
Very bizarre indeed

It seems a very lonely and solipsistic thing to do. Starting this thread feels similar. A well crafted post that people will read and respond to but perhaps with little interest in people's actual responses.

To be fair though, I think we are all getting a bit more like that when we interact online. Essentially it is such a lonely business, despite its 'social' nature, that it just drives us deeper and deeper into our own heads.

Go for a walk, OP. Chat to a neighbour.

This sounds like a shite post from Reddit.

I felt like this over a Prada bag I saw on Vinted
Then I gave myself a shake and spent my £300 elsewhere
🥱

You're just one amongst many time wasters - people who sell online are used to it.

Doubt the Op will be back🙄

I don't know why.
Because you're an aresehole?

Reverse!

I think someone is practising their flash fiction.

Needs more work OP, you put the reveal in that it's not OLD too soon.

I see what you mean, Heliss. When I first read it, i just thought the poster had put in the extra 90 seconds to make the post clear and concise. But reading it again I do see something of the creative writing evening class about it.
I read Jean Hanff's The Plot recently, which was soooo good on this sort of writerly ambition. It felt really humiliating to read it, as someone who has wanted to write.

Sad fanny

Thanks for the tip! Have just bought it as my holiday reading. 😅

Lol!

I think you're vastly overestimating how invested people are at the first message stage of OLD (which is what I assume you're talking about), or how high their expectations at that point would be.

How would you feel if you were on the receiving end of this, OP?