Are you good enough?

[SleepingStandingUp]

Discussion today made me realise I don't ever feel like I am. My marriage is the first relationship where I felt I was enough and now we have kids, even that has passed. I've not felt good enough since I was five and I thought my parent left because I wasn't enough reason to stay.

Oh the irony of my thread also not being good enough 🫣🤣

You are definitely good enough. It’s time to start seeing your worth. Please get some counselling to help with this. X

Yes I'm lucky I've always had a bit of confidence and an optimistic nature, although God knows how at times.

I'm also very pleased that my 3 DC appear to be the same. Actually I think it's a family trait as I have 4 siblings and we're all more or less the same.

I feel the same, like I always have something to prove and my mental health is shot at and I am exhausted through trying

And FWIW @SleepingStandingUp I always seem to enjoy your posts, so you're good enough for me 😁👍

Yes. More than 'good enough'.

But I'm lucky to be surrounded by my people who agree and we all support each other and make sure we all know that we are amazing.

I also wonder if it's a lot to do with being single.

Sorry you feel the same Ghostly. I don't think I'd really realised how deep the feeling runs until talking about it in counselling. I hope you can find some way to believe in yourself more too x

Thank you x

TBF to my husband, he absolutely tells me that I'm good enough, a d in terms of our marriage pre children I felt it, so I don't think the relationship is to blame. I also felt this long before him, through relationships and single.

I do have lots of lovely people around me but I assume if they think I'm good enough then it's because they don't know the real me