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Original poster

To feel a little sad that my PFB has to wear glasses (OK, OK, I know I am but waaah!)

36 replies

madamez · 19/03/2008 14:34

He's my PFB! And I do foresee lengthy and continuous struggles to get him to keep the things on. ANd I must go and get my varifocals sorted so I stop setting a Bad Example by taking my own specs off every time I get indoors...

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chickytwotimes · 19/03/2008 14:35

What age is he?

moondog · 19/03/2008 14:35

I know a little cute kid whose glasses make him even cuter. he keeps then on too and has done since he was 2. Amazing!

MaryAnnSmotheredinchocolate · 19/03/2008 14:35

aww, bet he/she will look very sweet in them - there are some lovely ones about..I remember my delightdul black NHS specs which I wore as an 11 yr old

saadia · 19/03/2008 14:37

My ds1 started wearing glasses last year, when he was 5 and he was fine with them, and I think they look pretty cute.

misdee · 19/03/2008 14:37

check my profile for dd3 with her specs on.

how old is your PFB?

S1ur · 19/03/2008 14:38

ah poor you and him, bet he'll get used to it really quickly. And some folk look utterly gorgeous in glasses.

DoodleToYou · 19/03/2008 14:39

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Flibbertyjibbet · 19/03/2008 14:41

We are just waiting for referral to see if ds2 (so not a pfb but I love him just the same ) needs spex for lazy eye.
Misdees child does indeedy look cute in her spex.
Saw a little boy about 3 the other day soooo cute in glasses that I found myself hoping that ds2 needs glasses

Oliveoil · 19/03/2008 14:42

I am waiting for this too

dd1 had her eyes looked at on Monday and they are going to check her again in 2 months, may have to have a patch to correct lazy muscles (?)

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madamez · 19/03/2008 14:42

He is 3.5 and is longsighted with a squint. He does look sweet in them (picked out frames yesterday, waiting to collect them). At least (as others ahve said) NHS glasses are really quite nice now, nothing like the horrors they were when I was a kid.

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MaryAnnSmotheredinchocolate · 19/03/2008 14:42

4 of ds's friends wear glasses and without exception they look cute ! ds tried some on in opticians when I was getting my new specs and I was relieved to see how well he suited them - just in case !

Flibbertyjibbet · 19/03/2008 14:47

Oliveoil I was that child at school with Patch for a lazy eye.
Not very cute in my 1969 Dame Edna NHS specs I can tell you. The glasses now are so much better.

DoodleToYou · 19/03/2008 14:47

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misdee · 19/03/2008 14:48

dd3 had to patch last year. it wasnt too bad really.

chickytwotimes · 19/03/2008 14:49

Kids look cool in "eyewear" as it's called these days. if he's long sighted, will he not only need them for reading?

DoodleToYou · 19/03/2008 14:51

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Bobbiewickham · 19/03/2008 14:52

My PSB has had glasses since he was six months old.

He looks lovely in them - can't imagine him without them.

theITgirl · 19/03/2008 14:56

My PFB also has to wear glasses, has done since he was 5.
We had an awkward first time wearing them to school, but he loves them now. He can actually see things!

They do get used to them quickly & then you cannot imagine them without.

Ineedacreamegg · 19/03/2008 16:11

DD (my pfb) got her glasses at just under 3 and she is beautiful in them. People always think children in glasses are soooooI was cute. I was really upset when she got them, not because she was getting theme would full stop just that she was getting them so young and I knew that she would have them forever.

It does make a huge difference and when they realise how much more they can see with them it is fantastic.
Not looking forward to if ds needs them though he willdef not be glad to keep them on.

soopermum1 · 19/03/2008 21:28

DS (my PFB) got glasses aged 3. have to admit to start with i was horrified as i remember my experience as a child having to wear glasses and enduring all the regular eye exams. but times have moved on, the glasses are much nicer, they even don't have wires round the ears any more

he's a, ahem, lively young chap (now aged 4.5)so have to admit they have been a bit of a 'mare. at one point we were at specsavers every week getting them fixed/replaced. they now know us by name.

he then had to wear a patch but i think he quite liked being a pirate and the patch just went over his glasses so was really easy and i could bung it in the washing machine. patch is now off, only took 3 months to correct the squint.

so, all in all, bit of a faff, but we're made lots of lovely new friends at specsavers he looks pretty cute in them. one thing i don't worry about is him being teased, he would punch any kid that dared, so the bookish stereotype of kids who wear glasses doesn't apply in DS's case.

AliciaJohns · 19/03/2008 21:35

I would be upset too but fear this is inevitable for ds as me and his dad are both as blind as bats.

taipo · 19/03/2008 21:47

I started wearing glasses when I was 7 which in those days was quite rare and I got teased loads at school . I went through the whole range of NHS specs and they were all hideous. Remember the tortoise shell ones?

DD is 7 and has had glasses since she was 5 and for her it has not been such a big deal, due to much better choice of frames and the fact that she is not the only one in her class with glasses.

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madamez · 19/03/2008 23:09

Thank you all - I have accepted it, really. He will not be the only one at his nursery, also I wear glasses and so do his grandparents and quite a few people we know, so he will accept them too. (though I think I may get through a fair few stickers/chocolate buttons in the first week or so).

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windygalestoday · 19/03/2008 23:23

lol this reminds me of my ds2 he wears glsses(he has very poor eyes )on collecting him from school i was pleased to see his best mate danny wearing similar glasses as ds2 was the only one in his class wering glasses ......when i collected him i realised hed swapped them!!!! for 6 pokemon cards!!! then i had to plead with school secretary to get dannys mum to tae the glasses off him in cse they got broke llolol

smartiejake · 19/03/2008 23:35

I know just how you feel. dd1 (lovely curly blonde hair and the most beautiful blue eyes with long, no mascara eyelashes) had to wear glasses for long sight at 16 months, and dd2 (similar lashes and lovely dark hair) had to wear them from 2.5 ( damn DHs genes)

DD1 aged 11 now only wears them for reading and dd2 (9)loves her trendy red or dead type frames that all the girls in her class say they would die for.

It's not the end of the world. And the earlier the problems are diagnosed the more chance of them being sorted before permanent damage is done.
I always thought of my dds glasses as a splint to support their poorer eye muscles. My optician always says "8 is too late" because the eye muscles are almost totally developed at this age and it's too late to do anything about it.

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