How to increase my sex drive

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Don’t really want to talk about it to friends in real life but has anyone got any tips of how to increase their sex drive?!
Early 40s been in relationship for 11/12 years, good relationship, I’m happy just feel I’m getting old before my time sex wise?! During the week by the time we get to bed I just want to sleep / chill so we only end up having sex about once a week. I don’t know if this is normal or not?! I’d like to feel like it more because when we do I enjoy it, so has anyone got any tips of how to get in the mood more often!?

Once a week - sounds fine as long as you are both happy with that.

Are you on any contraception? Some killer my sex drive.

I also found the more I had it the more I wanted it, so sometimes I’d do it even if I wasn’t in the mood and over time I found I actually wanted it more. This however doesn’t mean you should have sex when you don’t want to.

sorry I don’t have any better advice :)

Following for tips too! My sex drive is great the week of ovulation, but completely non-existent the rest of the time. We tend to manage about 4 times a month, but all crammed into one week! 😆

You may get a surge soon, my sex drive went bonkers from about 43 to 50.
Do you get the urge to masturbate?

Buy a new vibrator and take some time to masturbate. Focusing on your fantasies is good for reigniting desire overall. You might find this extends to wanting sex.

I’ve found being on the pill has killed my sex drive. But reading dirty books and watching bridgerton helps 😂
https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/what_were_reading/4815535-a-good-bonkbuster-for-holiday-please?page=3&reply=131819347

Sounds fine to me!

No one should feel obliged to increase their sex drive - it is what it is. You may also get a surge naturally a bit later on.