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Casual pre-arranged lunch.

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placemats · 28/12/2023 15:10

So this lunch today was arranged about 4 weeks ago and the brief was it was to be a snacking affair and a film after. We decided on what food to bring and what film to watch. It's three of us and we meet up regularly.

Anyway I set off but time has been delayed for arrival by 15 minutes and that's not a worry. I can take my time driving (and avoiding the potholes on the way). However, I missed the turning and got lost - it's a maze of roundabouts - texted to ask for a post code. 20 mins later sat waiting and still no reply, so I text I'm going home.

Halfway home I get a text with the post code so go back. Arrive and food is being put out onto the table and I put my food I've brought. Friend 1, not the host, says 'Oh did you bake that? We probably won't eat it so you can take it home.' To which I replied 'Yes that's a very good idea, in fact I'll take it home now.' And I left. (Forgot my handbag so had to go back).

Was I unreasonable?

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ElevenSeven · 28/12/2023 15:13

Seems a bit of an overreaction. Were you stressed about having been lost? Probably would have been better to get postcode before you left. People don’t always have their phones in their hand.

Don’t understand the 15 mins delay or what that’s got to do with anything.

ZekeZeke · 28/12/2023 15:15

Total overreaction on your part

estd1869 · 28/12/2023 15:16

Fruitcake

you that is

JustFrustrated · 28/12/2023 15:16

Massive over reaction tbh.

Rioja81 · 28/12/2023 15:17

Why did you do that?

Santaisscouringindeedfornewjob · 28/12/2023 15:17

Bad day op. Maybe make your apologies to your friends ....?

WhereIsBebèsChambre · 28/12/2023 15:17

You meet regularly but never this address?

estd1869 · 28/12/2023 15:17

i will take a punt that you didn’t get many any invitations over the festive period so you were foolish to stomp off from this one

hellojelly · 28/12/2023 15:17

Did you have the address? If so, why didn't you use that to Google the postcode?

OldTinHat · 28/12/2023 15:19

Why didn't you phone for the postcode instead of texting?

Ohnotyoutoo · 28/12/2023 15:19

Your friend's comment was a bit rude, yes, but that was a large overreaction from you.

Carishina · 28/12/2023 15:20

The only bit that sounds like it’s with getting upset about is friend 1’s comment but even then it depends on the context. Was there lots of food already or it perhaps didn’t fit in with your friends dietary requirements? On the basis of what you’ve said storming off home sounds like a massive overreaction.

Ohnotyoutoo · 28/12/2023 15:21

OldTinHat · 28/12/2023 15:19

Why didn't you phone for the postcode instead of texting?

Yep! You had two friends to choose from to phone, too

Christmassss · 28/12/2023 15:21

Did you go home because they didn’t want to eat what you’d brought?

My DM used to do things like this, I thought it was her anxiety as she used to get lost a lot too. It turned out to be some of the first signs of her Alzheimer’s. Once it took her ages to find a shopping Center, she met me and the first thing she said was I’m going home now. It was really weird, I put it down to her being stressed about getting lost.

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placemats · 28/12/2023 15:22

I've been many times, usually accompanied. Have probably been to too many events over the last few weeks.

We are all friends. Yes, I probably did overreact. I was just fed up and hungry. Anyway took the car for a wash, didn't have to queue either. It'll blow over.

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Original poster
placemats · 28/12/2023 15:23

Ohnotyoutoo · 28/12/2023 15:21

Yep! You had two friends to choose from to phone, too

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I did, twice, after texting.

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Christmassss · 28/12/2023 15:23

Maybe you could text them and say sorry I was a bit weird earlier I think I was a bit hangry or something like that.

estd1869 · 28/12/2023 15:24

OP i suspect you left, they look shocked at each other, then dissolved in to giggles, and then breathed a big sigh of relief and settled down to a nice afternoon together

underneaththeash · 28/12/2023 15:25

You should have checked the post code before setting out.

what did you bring to cause such a reaction!

Original poster
placemats · 28/12/2023 15:25

I don't have early onset Dementia or Alzheimer's. That's a ridiculous overreaction.

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estd1869 · 28/12/2023 15:26

how old are you op?

Original poster
placemats · 28/12/2023 15:26

estd1869 · 28/12/2023 15:24

OP i suspect you left, they look shocked at each other, then dissolved in to giggles, and then breathed a big sigh of relief and settled down to a nice afternoon together

Edited

Perhaps they're not friends after all. We've been meeting up for two years now.

OP posts:
Sparkletastic · 28/12/2023 15:26

Seems an odd thing to do.

estd1869 · 28/12/2023 15:27

placemats · 28/12/2023 15:25

I don't have early onset Dementia or Alzheimer's. That's a ridiculous overreaction.

would an unpleasant over reacting drama queen be more appropriate?

Original poster
placemats · 28/12/2023 15:28

estd1869 · 28/12/2023 15:26

how old are you op?

How old are you?

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