Casual pre-arranged lunch.

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So this lunch today was arranged about 4 weeks ago and the brief was it was to be a snacking affair and a film after. We decided on what food to bring and what film to watch. It's three of us and we meet up regularly.

Anyway I set off but time has been delayed for arrival by 15 minutes and that's not a worry. I can take my time driving (and avoiding the potholes on the way). However, I missed the turning and got lost - it's a maze of roundabouts - texted to ask for a post code. 20 mins later sat waiting and still no reply, so I text I'm going home.

Halfway home I get a text with the post code so go back. Arrive and food is being put out onto the table and I put my food I've brought. Friend 1, not the host, says 'Oh did you bake that? We probably won't eat it so you can take it home.' To which I replied 'Yes that's a very good idea, in fact I'll take it home now.' And I left. (Forgot my handbag so had to go back).

Was I unreasonable?

i reckon you’ll be identified Op

why?

because your behaviour was very unusual. And i imagine these friends have told many of their friends and acquaintances about this very odd and funny situation.

have you had any contact with either since you flounced?

Omg yes so rude.

If you were my friend it wouldn’t ’blow over’ I wouldn’t be bothering with you at all any more.

You really owe them an apology.

Your behaviour was very very odd and unpleasant OP.

I think you did them a huge favour and i very much doubt you’ll be heading back there again

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and you?

Why would I give an apology to people who wouldn't be bothered with me anymore?

I'm 63.

So you know the address but not the postcode? Why didn't you put the address into google and get the postcode that way instead of sitting there for 20 minutes?

Yes, you over reacted and although the comment about your food was odd and rude, you were ruder.

Well presumably if you wanted to try and salvage the friendship as I expect most posters assume you don’t have many if this is how you typically behave.

Didn't know flouncing was still a thing at 63 tbh...

I don't typically behave like that. Friend 1 is hard work and everyone compensates for her. I've travelled a lot with her in the past, we know each other well.

However, obviously at 63, I'm decrepit, getting old with dementia, friendless and unloved.

My youngest child is 22 years old.

I have actually calmed down a lot with the responses here. So funny.

Thanks to you all.

You were stressed and hangry, the rude comment about your baking pushed you over the edge, I wouldn't worry about it.

That is an anxiety based response OP. I could see myself doing something similar.

Do you have any mutual friends with either of them?

Because you can be sure they will have been told about you flouncing

I'm someone who much prefers texting friends over calling them. However, if I get lost on the way to someone's house, I call my friend for directions or a postcode. You can't assume your friend is hanging around with their phone in front of them waiting for your text. Far more likely that they're busy preparing and tidying their home before you arrive. Maybe that's what the extra 15 mins was for. Just call in future.

As for the food comment, sounds a bit rude, but we don't know the context. If they're both coeliac and you brought standard bread, fair enough. If it's because your friend alone doesn't like the dish, that's just rude, because you and your other friend could still have had it.

But yeah you massively overreacted.

Yabvu

Massive overreaction!

You may have overreacted a bit but they were rude and I'm not sure I would bother meeting up with them again.

I'm 62 and can flounce with the best of them.

This is just bizarre. Every single person has basically told you how appallingly rude you were and this response suggests you think everyone posting is ridiculous and you are in the right.

I wouldn't ever bother with you again if I was one of your friends. I can't bear this sort of dramatic silliness.

If you continue to behave like this you won’t have friends anymore though.

Surely you make sure you have the postcode if you’ve never been “unaccompanied” there before. Why didn’t you just call when no one replied? They probably didn’t realise you had text.

Maybe friend 1 was slightly rude but it wasn’t worth leaving over. What was the reason they wouldn’t eat the food? Did you ask? I bet they had a good giggle about your strange behaviour after you’d left.

I was thinking the same! A text can go unnoticed, a phone call can't.

OP seems passive-aggressive. Explains everything.