For not giving him a chance? Think I’ve got the ick…

[Couldthisbetheick]

Been on a few dates with a guy from OLD…

Seemed like a decent bloke to start with - chatty, intelligent, fun…

but he just seems to give me the ick…

there is nothing as obvious as a red flag, but he says stuff that’s a bit weird.

Can be slightly overbearing ( though does listen in conversation), opinions that are a couple of steps from a conspiracy theory, talks about going out drinking in a way that makes it obvious he thinks it’s cool to get wasted ( he’s in his 40’s), has twee name for women’s genitals.

I think behind it all he’s a decent guy, but maybe trying too hard to be funny. I think the drinking stuff is just to make him sound gregarious…

WIBU to knock this on the head?

You can knock it on the head for any reason. Minor irritations tend to just grow ime.

If you're not feeling it, you're not feeling it. The near- conspiracy stuff isn't going to get any better once you start getting more comfortable with each other and he feels freer to express his unvarnished opinions to you.

Out of curiosity, what is his twee word for womens' genitalia? (I absolutely loathe "pussy" myself).

Once you get the ick, it's very difficult, near impossible to ignore it.

From what you're saying, it doesn't seem you're really into him.

You don't need to justify not fancying/getting on/having a spark with someone.

God just dump. I think it's best to filter them out early if you're looking for a long term partner, because they'll only get weirder/more annoying the longer you spend with them.

Well, I'd ditch you for saying "the ick"

He's had a lucky escape.

Out of curiosity, what is his twee word for womens' genitalia? (I absolutely loathe "pussy" myself).

Oh yes, I'd like to know too.
My ick is when they call it "a fairy" - No thank you

If you've got the ick, you'll always have the ick.

There's a reason we have reactions to people - and I've learned over the years to be confident enough in myself to take note.

Men are funny sometimes. Mine called it a floofy once back in the early days. Like you would call for a cat. Killed myself laughing, he didn't do it again.

@minou123 @crackofdoom he used ‘ladybits’ 🤮

I think the verdict is in…it’s only going to get worse isn’t it?

Such a shame. Had potential. Also keep thinking it’s me being too fussy, but there are such few decent guys out there.

@VeniVidiWeeWee maybe he has! 😄

Bin him. Conspiracy bollocks would have been enough for me to bin someone.

He clearly isn’t what you want anyway.

"Ladybits" 😆😆😆
For what it's worth, I have resolved this problem in the past by just saying "Call it a cunt fgs!". But that's the least of your problems really.

Ladybits!

No, nope, non, nein. He would not be going near my 'ladybits'

Before I met my current partner, I used to have a 3 date rule and if I wasn't feeling it after the 3rd date I would call it off. I didn't want to waste mine or their time.

Frankly, this would get him blocked faster than ‘lady bits’ would.

“ Givinh him a chance “ is when you are married / have kids together.

Not when you have the ick aftre a couple of dates.

End it politely and kindly and move on.

Don't ignore ick feelings

satsuma what do you call it then? "Frot my foo foo baby? Vigorously stimulate my vulva darling?" 😆