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AIBU or would you of snooped bosses email too

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MumOfTheNorth · 07/10/2023 19:22

So of course I know it's wrong to snoop someone else's personal communication but I'm curious how many other people would of done the same as me in my situation.

I worked for a small tech company (15 people) for my first job out of uni. The boss was also the company owner and a real bully. Some examples of behaviour below:

  • sending aggressive emails to employees commenting on their appearance or personal hygiene
  • making funny faces of an employee behind his back who had autism for months
  • having an affair with an intern
  • getting drunk in the work day and pressuring others to join
  • asking female workers if they were pregnant
  • hiring people and firing them after a couple of days if he didn't like them
  • generally shouting at everyone

We were all very young, for most of us it was our first job and there was no HR - I find it crazy I put up with this behaviour now and lucky the company has since shut down.

People got fired all the time - for a few months it was 1 a week and there was a crazy turn over of staff. The meeting room was a glass box and they'd only draw the curtains if someone was getting fired and we all sat there terrified waiting to see who would be called in.

I discovered I had access to my bosses Gmail on my work computer as it had been his previously and I would check daily to see if I was going to get fired - the owner and office manager would always discuss in advance. Would you of done the same?

(If you're wondering why I didn't just leave - I loved the team, I loved the work - it was my dream job minus the owner and in the end I did leave as it was too unstable)

AIBU - you wouldn't of looked

AINBU - you would of looked like I did

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Idrinklotsofcoffee · 07/10/2023 19:28

Yep, I definitely would’ve looked.

elessar · 07/10/2023 19:28

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This.

Regardless of the rights and wrongs of it, why does it matter now?

EauNeu · 07/10/2023 19:30

i wouldnt have because you can see which devices accessed a google account - so actually more likely to get you sacked.

Timeisallwehave · 07/10/2023 19:32

Nope and there is a good chance google will send a login alert to his secondary email or phone at some point

Thanksforreading · 07/10/2023 19:33

I would have totally looked! 🫣
they should of wiped the laptop clean before giving it for you to use.

thenightsky · 07/10/2023 19:37

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This really. Ofing a look is tempting I guess though.

PurpleChrayne · 07/10/2023 19:38

Would HAVE, FFS.

liverpoolnana · 07/10/2023 19:39

Agreed !! It's HAVE. 'Of' makes no sense at all.

Butterkist8 · 07/10/2023 19:40

No, I would not have looked.

greyhairnomore · 07/10/2023 19:41

I wouldn't HAVE looked , no.

ThomasinaLivesHere · 07/10/2023 19:42

It’s hard to say. I’m sure at a young age I would have been tempted and might have done it without thinking I could be traced. I guess it can be easy to justify it to yourself if the guy is a dick.

MumOfTheNorth · 07/10/2023 19:45

So I can't change the original post so it will HAVE to stay as 'of' not 'have' to the grammar police out there 🤣

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Oblomov23 · 07/10/2023 19:45

Eh? Was this years ago? Because surely it's traceable?

Sumtimesiamgreen · 07/10/2023 19:47

I would not have looked, no.

EvilElsa · 07/10/2023 19:48

I'd like to say I wouldn't, but in all honesty if my boss was that much of a cunt I probably would!

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AnxiousPangolin · 08/10/2023 10:11

I never get the point of these type of posts on MN and they are relatively frequent.

’AIBU to wonder why Doreen never made me a cup of tea 25 years ago, I’ve been thinking about it all this time.’

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