Was it time to say goodbye to this person

[thisisasurvivor]

18 year friendship

I have been keeping my distance

So the following was over the last few years

1. told me I looked fat MULTIPLE times
2. looked after her dog and never once got a thank you or gift
3. rang me up after I forgot to leave the dog bowl back after I took him for a weekend while she went away - rang me to have. A go at me
4. said I looked like my daughters child minder and not her mother (dd is mixed race)
5. could not understand why I wanted to pursue it with the police when my ex assaulted me (happened multiple times and once was hospitalised)
6. did not check in once when I had to go to criminal court with my ex
7. didn't want to get involved even though she saw me a few minutes after one attack saw the blood etc

I helped her so many ways
Any problems would call her to check in and to offer support
Lots of free baby sitting and dog sitting
Lots of presents etc

Anyway

Just wondering when you realise it's time to not respond and let it go
Or say how disappointed I am?

You haven't had an 18 year friendship because it doesn't sound like she's considered you a friend.

Back away.

Yes true

I should have had more sense

I just want to not speak to her ever again
One day it all just dawned on me

Wow I would have dumped this friendship YEARS ago. Life gets more easier when you get rid of the negative people.

I would’ve said the ideal time to let that one go was about 18 years ago. But you’re free now.

Ii know

It just dawned on me that we met in halls at uni this day 18 years ago

Sad but not the end of the world

Gosh I was a real walkover

Early morning wake up calls to get her from the airport she was a total asshole 🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️😞

Block block block and block again

Exactly

You have permission to never contact or respond to her again.

I’ve ditched fair weather friends (and toxic family members) for less.

Work on your boundaries. Learn to say:
“No, that does not work for me.”
”Sorry, I’m busy/got other plans”.

Yes I wish I had

The more I did the less thanks I got

Very stupid of me

I value myself more now

Has taken ages
I just could never treat people this badly

I wouldn't contact her again. She isn't your friend.

And, if she contacts you to ask you to dogsit, do not respond, or say no.

Some people stay forever and some people have a sell by date. She reached hers years ago but, just like we all have a tin of something in the back of a cupboard that's years out of date that eventually finds its way to the bin, now it's her turn to go in the trash. Bye bye now non friend. Off you fuck to the other side of fuck.

Ghost her

Some people stay forever and some people have a sell by date. She reached hers years ago but, just like we all have a tin of something in the back of a cupboard that's years out of date that eventually finds its way to the bin, now it's her turn to go in the trash

Beautiful way of putting it

X 1 million yessssssss