Contraception

[Farmersswife]

DH and I have just had our second baby currently 8m old. I’ve just stopped breastfeeding. DH 37 is refusing to get the snip, completely fair enough it’s his body & his choice. I 27 am not overly keen on going back on contraception there is a huge history of blood clots & related illnesses in the family and therefore I only have a limited choice. I previously had a coil but after 18m it started to be incredibly painful & the drs were reluctant to take it out.

DH refuses to wrap it up! I am happy for a 3rd but our lifestyle & marriage would not handle it!. I did try no sex for 4weeks but can’t deal with the earache anymore. What options do i have? What do other people do?.

DH thinks IABU & thinks it’s my responsibility to be protected.

Oh great, the 'as a man' posters have arrived. On a thread about a woman's contraception. FFS.

His options are condoms, vasectomy, or celibacy.

Let him choose.

So, as I'm a man, I'm clearly not entitled to a view on contraception - is that what you're saying? So it is actually OPs responsibility?

Posts like that actually drive inequality between sexes. Do you see that?

FFS

Oh come on now, normally I'd be the first to agree with you but not on this thread, which is about contraception regarding a woman and a man.

Especially as the OP was thankful for the PP's input.

Just ignore, you have every right to post your input.

And if you didn't mention you were a man, your post would've looked strange, as we might assume you were female.

I was sterilized at 28 after three kids but I got zero help or consideration from my GP so I went to a private clinic and not in this country ( New York ) . Worked for me.

Don't get the last sentence? Why would you not assume I'm a man? You've got me worried now....

Sorry I’ve misunderstood I thought it was a poster asking for advice and opinions on contraception for a couple not just about a woman contraception please accept my apologies I’ll leave I to discuss women’s things

Right. So now I'm driving sexism because I think men should keep their noses out of women's reproductive choices? Cheers for that.

Why cant I have a view on this as a man? It's an open forum and everyone can voice their opinion - can't they?

Personally you should reflect upon your original post. It is definitely posts like that that drive sexism and equality.

You probably misread.

I'm saying this is one thread where it's fine to start with 'as a man'.

This thread is about a couple's contraception issues.

And did you miss where the OP said Thank you, really interesting from a man’s point of view!

Or are you just deliberately ignoring it to push your own agenda?

What about the IUD? The copper one is hormone free so sort of natural