Naked in front of your child

[weirdas]

What age Is it appropriate to stop being naked in front of your children (if any) and does gender matter? Ie dad and daughter or mum and son?

I think it’s a bit odd and would secretly think someone had body issues or very prudish if they claimed they had never been naked around young children.

I have no issues. I was never naked around my kids.

You’d have to make a lot of effort to never be naked around a 2or3yr old for example! The only way I got a shower when mine were that age was by setting them up with bath toys at one end whilst I showered!

I didn't have to make too much effort tbh. I was able to shower before work by simply taking turns with DH. I realise not everyone has a partner but to say it takes a lot of effort to not be naked around kids, well not for everyone

To me it’s just normal and natural. Nothing to do with laziness.

I agree. Even if I'm alone, I'm hardly ever naked. I find it bizarre that so many people on here spend so much time at home with no clothes on.

Bodies aren't shameful though, I suffer in the heat and always have done, even at relatively low temperatures I can't stand the feeling of anything touching my body - including clothes - so in my own home I will wander round with as little as possible on - often just underwear - sometimes even just knickers. My partner walks around topless for comfort, and is able to do so in public as well, so I don't see why I shouldn't even be comfortable in my own home just because I'm female. So while I don't expect everyone to do it - I don't know why it's so odd that others do.

My eldest son is coming up 9.5 years and has no qualms about being naked in front of me and DH.

My DH doesn’t feel comfortable being naked around DS whereas I’m not bothered.

His school year have started talking about puberty and I have done a lot of work with DS about it at home so he’s quite fascinated in body changes at the moment.

Ive got a mum-tum after 2 c-sections and we will openly talk about it, he also asks about my skin dimples on my thighs and once asked why my left boob was a little bigger than my other other one 😂 I don’t mind him seeing my normal body and asking inquisitive questions because it’s important to me that he knows what real bodies look like and how they can change.

I don’t walk around the house naked or anything like that but he will see me go to and fro the shower without clothes on, and he will see me without clothes on when I’m getting undressed/undressed etc.

I think things may start to change when he become more self conscious of his body as he gets older but for now we’re quite comfortable around each other.

I'm not ashamed. I just don't walk round naked. Don't you have windows in your house or are all your curtains and blinds permanently closed.

To be fair we are in a high rise flat so people can't really see in, I do keep blinds down and windows open to try and cool the flat down though - its a bit of a sun trap otherwise. I can see why others wouldn't be comfortable doing the same but I don't think it's that bizarre either.

If someone can look through my window and see me naked, that's their problem for being nosey.
I'm in my natural state, feeling cool and comfortable and I have nothing to be ashamed of. They on the other hand feel it necessary to hide themselves away under clothing as if they are ashamed of their sweating body. I've no sympathy for them.

Why would you ever be naked in front of your children?

Getting up in the morning. Having a bath/shower. Changing for swimming. So many scenarios.

@GladAllOver - I am with your logic 100%. I am not bothered who sees me naked, we all have bodies and 50% have the same anatomy as me. I mow the lawn topless and if someone is keen to look, I'm sure they could find a vantage point, albeit an uncomfortable one.

I was even born naked!

Even if she has open window , it’s her home ! She should be allowed to do as she pleases

my dds went through a stage of wanting complete privacy to change and not wanting to see me change from about 12 through early teens, which I fully respected. Now they are mid to late teens they seem to care less again. Normal bodies are nothing to be ashamed of.
I would happily change in front of my mum, sisters or dds so long as they’re comfortable with it.

they’re dad wouldn’t change in front of them now though and visa versa, which is understandable as I wouldn’t change in front of my dad or brother either. So same sex I’d say you can keep on forever so long as everyone’s comfortable. Opposite sex I guess it’s the same, but both parties are less likely to be comfortable with it.

I think those people although they wont admit to it link a naked body to sexuality , when they are 2 very different things . A child who grows up around adults who are not ashamed will have a better body image , it’s even linked to less issues breastfeeding as a example .
It’s a very cultural thing too , we often go on holiday abroad , German kids as an example walk around naked well into their teens and Russian families often have no issues with being naked in their own gardens , I was just on holiday and next to was was a family of 5 that undressed and had a outside shower as soon as they left the swimming pool ( in their own garden and private pool but very visible as low fences ) . My family in Germany use saunas where everyone is naked .
Its all about body image , another example , I grew up in a Mediterranean country and girls would never wear bathing suits just biquíni bottoms until they where teens as it didn’t make sense to cover something they didn’t have . I try to pass that to my kids if they are on the beach on holiday I can’t think of why a 4 year old need a bikini top , to cover what exactly , they have no boobs . Thankfully my kids are very relaxed , my 7 year old still undresses herself if I let on the beach fully before heading home lol

Well no...I mean if a grown man or even woman stood totally naked in their front room window on a busy road, no one would actually think that was acceptable would they?

I quite standing probably not but passing through the window you would have to live with it . In fact some cases have gone to court including those of a woman sunbathing naked in her Garden and although it was fully viable to her neighbors it was allowed to be done . It’s all a bout intend , once more you are linking nakedness to sex and they are not always connected

I think those people although they wont admit to it link a naked body to sexuality ,

Why do you think that?

I don't do this, or any of the other things posters have suggested unthread as a reason for not being naked around my kids.

What's wrong with 'I choose clothes'? Simply I choose to wear clothes and others choose to be naked. Im not suggesting people who go nude around their kids are anything others than making a different choice to me, so why are so many people trying to suggest there is something 'wrong' with me for choosing clothes?

The responses here are a reflection shown on the TV programme of "Naked Education" where so many of the teens had never seen a normal adult body. It was amazing and sobering when they found out that there are many types of body, with many different shapes, sizes, skin conditions, deformities. That bodies age, and change, but are not so different to young bodies, just different.

I think many of us feel somewhat defensive because somewhere up the thread people were equating being naked around your kids to borderline abuse and purposely showing children genitalia.

I tend to just wear a pair of knickers when it’s really hot as I don’t cope well with the heat. So far, dd(10) and ds(8) isn’t at all bothered. The day they start acting embarassed or uncomfortable, is the day I’ll start to cover up a bit more around them

It’s just a body. At the moment dd is happy to walk around naked and even ds does too. Dh isn’t comfortable doing it, so he doesn’t.

We aren’t ashamed of our bodies and I like to think I’m encouraging body positivity

I think many of us feel somewhat defensive because somewhere up the thread people were equating being naked around your kids to borderline abuse and purposely showing children genitalia.

Perhaps if you stuck to being defensive with the people saying that weird shit rather than throwing assumptions at all the clothes people for simply making a different choice?

(Collective you, btw, not personal)

I’m not suggesting there is something wrong with you it’s normally the opposite just stating the benefits if feeling at ease with your body

I’m not suggesting there is something wrong with you it’s normally the opposite just stating the benefits if feeling at ease with your body

I DO feel 'at ease' with my body

I don't need to walk about naked for that.

If you look it up kids who have contact with others naked in their families seem more comfortable in their own body . That’s what I meant .

Eldest is 10 and I'm naked every bed time or changing out of work clothes

Also pee in front of each other

I'm getting more conscious of it now

We're all naked around each other, three generations, but we all close the toilet or bathroom door when sitting down. We like to pee in private. Just personal feelings.

If you look it up kids who have contact with others naked in their families seem more comfortable in their own body . That’s what I meant .

If that's what you meant then mentioning 'being at ease' with your body wasn't the way to say it. I had no idea that's what you were alluding to because all I took from you talking about being at ease with your body was that me being clothes suggests I am not at ease with my body.

I just choose clothes. That's ok. I don't know why you need the patronising 'if you look it up' thing juts because I like to wear clothes. Perhaps I should explain myself? It's nothing to do with researching how to make my children feel comfortable in their own bodies (they are now adults btw, who are absolutely fine with their bodies) it's about me feeling physically comfortable and for that I need clothes. Specify clothes at that. It an autistic/sensory thing for me, but I shouldn't have to explain why I don't naked. I just can't see why people on both sides of this fence can't juts accept others do things differently?

You are keen to tell me I should 'look it up' rather then accepting my choice. There is not much need for you to promote the benefits of nudity.

The same could be said to people on the other side of this argument.