Naked in front of your child

[weirdas]

What age Is it appropriate to stop being naked in front of your children (if any) and does gender matter? Ie dad and daughter or mum and son?

DS and DD are both 13 and regularly come in the bathroom to chat to me while I'm in the bath. Not a problem in our house.

Can you link thr the evidence of this please?

this thread is becoming deeply abusive and if you’re going to make claims like that then you need to back it up or have your post deleted. Becayde it’s going too far now. Far too far. Insinuating children are safer if dad or mum show their genitalia is something that needs proving.

Ate you for real ? By making their body something of a tabu you are making your children more open to predators than anyone here with a liberal view of being naked around the house .

https://amp.theguardian.com/society/2021/sep/02/millions-children-religious-groups-vulnerable-abuse-england-and-wales

https://www.met.police.uk/advice/advice-and-information/caa/child-abuse/faith-based-abuse/

There is plenty more

My mum still gets naked in front of me. I'm 41. If it's the same sex I think it's pretty normal to be naked in front of each other, friends, family, parents, children.

I’m still naked in front of my sons and vice versa, all totally comfortable with it. Eldest is 11 and youngest is 4. It’s not like I get naked and then make supper or watch tv. I mean they come in and chat while I’m getting changed or in the bath.

When my eldest shows signs of preferring that we both have privacy then I expect we’ll mutually modify our openness a little.
But like a pp I think it’s a good thing that my sons have been around a woman (who they love and think is beautiful!) who demonstrates what an adult human female body looks like - one that has been taken care of but still shows signs of pregnancy and ageing. They know I am proud of my body and they know the differences between male bodies and female ones.

I’m sorry. I didn’t think I needed to explain further, but clearly I do. Can you link to supporting evidence that folks who do not expose their children to their own nudity, as your claim, are more likely to abuse their children.

Not religious vulnerabilities which is very separate. You say there is plenty. Let’s see it.

Our children are now adult ( 1 home 1 not ) I’m always naked after 10 pm upstairs so if they don’t want to see me in the buff then they need to stay out of my bedroom / bathroom and possibly close their eyes on the landing . Thus far neither of them bother to avoid me and nobody has gouged their eyes out .

They are linked , most people who are that pudic are due to religious upbringing. So religious vulnerability is still present in the house

So at 22, then? 🤣

Seriously, I do like how this is about your needs and boundaries. It is fine as long as it is not sexual, a bit like a nudist beach.

To OP no one needs to continue or stop because others do. Although it is interesting to see the differences of opinions on here.

You are spot on , I think it actually helps teach the difference between nudity and sexuality . They are massively different .
My kids don’t bat an eyelid to see me naked , even now . Then again my mum would dress herself in front of me even now and I’m 41

Yes, that’s what I had meant to type!

Don’t be so daft.millions of people don’t get naked in front of their kids and it’s nothing to do with religion. You keep making these big statements with nothing to back it up

It's not tricky. Just put on a swim suit. Sorted.

Why would anyone wear a swimsuit in a bath lol ? That’s just so odd .

There is a MASSIVE difference between generally being naked in, say, the shower or while getting dressed and your child seeing you and showing them your genitalia. When you're getting changed in the gym, are you showing everyone else your genitalia? Or might they just catch a quick glance of public hair or boob? Parents on here are hardly suggesting giving your 3 year old up close and personal anatomy classes using your own body are they.

One teen and one near teen both of them come and sit with me if I’m having a bath to chat (I can’t even go to the loo without a dog/cat coming with me 🙄)

Always been very open and honest about bodies, and both of my children and very body confident 🤷‍♀️

Never as far as I’m concerned.

My parents were pretty liberal and easy going with regards to nudity. I found it absolutely disgusting. I've never been abused.

Depends on situation. My mum was quite a prude in every respect so the nakedness made me uncomfortable from a very young age.

With anyone other than parents or siblings it's a boundary that shouldn't be crossed. The safeguarding implications are obvious. On the beach or in public we didn't let DC run around in the nude, even when very small.

As to immediate family living under your roof:

With my mum, never.
With my kid, hasn't been an issue yet and I don't make a thing about it.

I'd not like DC to be brought up with the notion that the human body is somehow taboo. DH's rigid Catholic family were like this, to the extent that when niece's top rode up whilst she was dancing she was horrified, believing that showing her torso was 'rude'. She was about 6-7 at the time. His family never even farted in front of each other. DH isn't remotely prudish - I'm not sure where he gets that from! 😆

I wouldn't want DC feeling like that, but it's also important to instil where those boundaries should be. I appreciate they'll be different for everyone.

I am female and have a daughter. I don't think I'd necessarily impose an age at which we cannot be naked around each other. I don't see the issue. Unless she is genuinely uncomfortable about it, at which point I'd respect that but I'd also want to gently understand if there are any specific concerns or reasons why, just in case.

I was brought up by a single mum so I'm not really sure what the deal is with opposite sex parents. My daughter is only 6 and may walk into the bathroom when her dad is in the shower but doesn't seem to bat an eyelid. The shower has frosted glass on it anyway so you can't see much. I do remember showering with my dad once when I was about 9 but it was on a campsite and I think he had safety concerns about me going into the showering block alone.

To be clear the showering place we were in was HUGE we were not crammed into a regular sized cubicle, that would be weird.

I started being more private when DS started being more private, but it was gradual. He'll still burst into the bedroom when I'm getting dressed occasionally, but he's got a lot better about that. I wouldn't have been so bothered, but DS has boundary issues (suspected ASD), so its been more important than it otherwise would have been.

9 and 6 here - no issues and no one is feeling self conscious. I will be led by them.