Naked in front of your child

[weirdas]

What age Is it appropriate to stop being naked in front of your children (if any) and does gender matter? Ie dad and daughter or mum and son?

Don't make an issue of it in my house. If they walk in my room while I'm getting undressed/or I'm in the bath the conversation continues, nobody seems embarrassed, both genders ages ranges from 3 to 12.

Rather they all knew what a normal body looks like.

I'm not ever deliberately naked around my kids, but the lock on the bathroom door's bust, and my 9 y/o still comes in and rabbits to me about video games etc while I'm trying to have a shit!

Not in mine either.

Because he always needs a wee when I'm in the shower. Because I'm the hot weather I sleep naked so if I'm just popping int other room to settle a screaming pre schooler I don't get dressed first. Because it hadn't occurred to me to scream "don't come in, you can see my flesh" if my 8 yo son tries to come in my room.

I was brought up in a family where we often went to nudist beaches, so we were used to naked bodies of every sort, and we still do. It's just natural and nothing to do with sex.

Back at home we are equally relaxed about passing each other clothed or naked, we are totally familiar with what's underneath so why should it matter? But the bathroom and toilet doors are usually closed.

I do think particularly having boys I'll stop before they get uncomfortable, I don't want them to have to be uncomfortable but also if it happens Incidentally after that, I'm not going to make a big song and dance about it. Yes they need to learn about boundaries and consent hut huddling in a corner trying to get dressed so your 5 to can see neither your naked front or bum lest you be accused of DELIBERATELY being naked in front of children almost like it's for your own kick, is ridiculous

It's not about "being deliberately naked in front of them". It's just going about what you need to do without panicking about hiding your flesh from your child when they are not bothered. It's healthy to demonstrate that there is nothing to be ashamed of by having a normal non-model body. Plus how else do you go for a wee when out on your own with a small child?

But why should it be avoided?

I take my children in to the shower with me, I model how to wash yourself by washing myself, show them it's something we all do, not that they have to do just then.

At the swimming pool, we all go in to a family changing room together - I'm not going to leave my young kids outside so they don't see me naked- the risks aren't worth it.

I also think that teaching children what normal human bodies look like is a good thing - we don't all look like models, actors or even biological drawings.

It allows for natural conversations to occur (why I don't have a penis, why I have hair, why my bum is big, what stretch marks are). It also allows for conversations about privacy, who can see you naked, how you can choose not to be seen naked etc.

Also, when you have a toilet raining toddler and only one bathroom, it's a heck of a lot easier!

We did until they stated being more private about their own bodies. We took the cues from them.

you're just doing it deliberately because you don't care about forcing your nudity on children who don't have any choice. If a man said what have just said, he would be labelled a predator.
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Personally I wouldn't he calling SS to report a man who's kid saw him without clothes on because they went swimming together, the kid walks into the bathroom etc. I think it's really off to conflate that kind of normal family stuff with child abuse.

That is a very strange attitude to me.

When they were little, our children saw us naked on a daily basis. We might be walking around our bedroom getting changed or in the bathroom. It’s perfectly natural imo and not something to be prim over. It never actually occurred to either of us to ‘make an effort to cover ourselves’ 😂

I’d stop when either they want privacy for themselves, and/or start seeing naked parents as a bit embarrassing.

Wow there are some prudes on this thread. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being naked in front of your child, at any age. If they are uncomfortable then they don’t have to be present.

In fact it’s good to show your children what real adult bodies look like, before they start thinking no one has any body hair/stretch marks/spots/freckles, all men are muscular and well endowed, and all women are airbrushed to perfection with tiny waists and big boobs.

Surely, it's when EITHER party feels uncomfortable.

I don’t think it’s unusual, but your upbringing was half a century before the children which people are referring to, and generally people have a different attitude to nudity now.

Forcing nudity on children?

Id frigging love it if my children didn’t enter my bedroom every 20 seconds while I’m changing, or if I was able to have a bath in peace, or use the toilet in peace.

I can assure you, I’m absolutely not forcing nudity on my children. If anything, my children are forcing my nudity on me, lol.

Oh for goodness sake. What a hyperbolic response. Children can see adults in real life, in the shops, on the streets, in schools. How in gods name will they think all men are muscular and well endowed and all women have tiny waists and big boobs. Clothes can disguise but not that much lol 😂😂😂

Can we stop trying to shame parents for having different views on this? Some posters are on the verge of implying it's abuse because they don't like it. It's just not true. It's offensive and disrespectful to actual abuse victims

If I had my way, I wouldn’t even see myself naked, let alone anyone else!
I am very private and don’t like my DH seeing me undressed, and avoid it whenever I possibly can.
I get changed in the bathroom alone, could never sleep naked.
Maybe I’ve just got a horrendous body and think I should spare anyone else having to look at it. I do admire people who actually don’t care about their bodies, regardless of shape or size.

Nonsense.

Stretch marks
Saggy boobs/pecs/bellys
Excess skin
Scars
Birth marks
Pigmentation patches
Dry skin

Haha yes.
Yesterday, DS asks if I'm coming down stairs. I say no I'm going to grab a shower. He says OK hell just sit and stare at me whilst I do. I called him a creepy troll and made him go downstairs. All very lighthearted, he'd have said the same thing if I'd been dying my hair, or brushing my teeth etc and creepy refers to a quote about watching your parents sleep in Trolls, but yes he'd have happily sat and talked at me whilst I showered because he doesn't see it as anything but "just Mom" and it wouldn't have been weird or abusive, it's just a difference in boundaries. I sent him down because I wanted peace.

But why would she care ? I find it weird that you create shame where it doesn’t need go be . Why do you think a mother or avails should be ashamed of their bodies . Places where people grow up hiding their bodies and covering up is where most abuse is rife so you can’t even say it’s safeguard . It’s bad enough most people make girls cover their nipples when they go to the beach despite them having no breast when boys get to go around with no tops even outside the beach or swimming pool . It’s just such a misogynist world already ,why promoting it even more

I agree .
Most victims of abuse are from households where nudity didn’t existe . If anything creating shame and a home where bodies are seen as something hobbies will make it much easier for abuse to happen . That’s why child abuse is rife in religious sects and cults etc .