Murder of Lola James age 2 by mums boyfriend. Pictures of their home showing mess and squalor. Seems to be a common thing. They are abusive and horrible to their children and they also live in a mess. Aibu to ask why they want to live like this? I can't understand how you are even allowed to bring children up in a dirty, smelly messy house and why is there often dog crap everywhere too? Yuk.