Boyfriend new gym habits..

[Jessiecakemaker]

Not sure if I'm being majorly paranoid here. Bf of 2 years has always said he wants to get fitter etc but has never acted on it unless its the weeks building up to holiday etc.
Since the beginning of Feb he has really stepped up doing sports and now is wanting to join a gym. He says he wants to get back in shape.

I don't know why but the sudden onset motivation has triggered some major anxiety in me. I'm wondering if he's met someone.
I obviously want him to be happy and healthy and it's a great thing that he wants to do it. But part of me is wondering why the sudden urge...

AIBU?

If it's just this alone then I think you are being paranoid. Any other recent changes in behaviour?

I’ve just joined a gym 13 years into my marriage… I hope my husband doesn’t think it means I’m cheating! I’m just sick of being a fat slob 🤷🏻‍♀️

I suppose he has to start sooner or later

How is your relationship generally? I'd say it's not healthy if your partner starts a new exercise regime and the first thing you think of is an affair. Is this the only change in behaviour?

I joined a gym 3 years into my marriage, to get fitter & healthier.
Doesn't mean I’m cheating.

But how is your relationship generally?

Maybe he just wants to get fitter ready for spring/summer…mss as my people join a gym around this time.

I've just started going to the gym 5 days a week and eating healthily after years of saying I would. I'd be really pissed off if my husband assumed I was having an affair because of it.

No other changes in behavior. Never better than ever the relationship tbh..
I'm being crazy aren't I!?

Yes

Unless my DH had been showing other signs, I don't think it would occur to think that this by itself could possibly be a sign of cheating 🤷‍♀️. Are you concerned that you'll feel more insecure once he's in shape, as if he might go looking for 'better'?

I joined the gym 26 years into our marriage, never ever having considered it before. By that logic, would you suspect I was having an affair ?

Is he out of shape? He's probably fed up of looking at himself if so.

Jesus wept. He's going to the sodding gym.