That I am not being negative and putting barriers in place

[dentydown]

I’m disabled, I have arthritis in my hip, and knee. I have been found temporary accommodation but it has internal stairs.

The council are telling me that my children occupy the upstairs, and I occupy the downstairs because there is a downstairs bathroom. There are steps to access the bathroom.

Expressed concerns that in an emergency, so for example, the children are fighting (two have autism and behavior problems) I will not be able to get up the stairs. The landlord isn’t guaranteeing permission for adjustments within the home. Currently the way I accessed the stairs is by crawling up on my hands and knees and bum shuffling down the stairs.

I can’t lift my leg more than 3 to 4 inches, then I have to bend my knee to get more height.

I’m constantly being told that I am being negative.

aibu - I should suck it up and manage

depends How long it takes you to get upstairs and how old your children are.

My children are 13, 11, 5. The boys have autism.

i know I will definitely be able to get up the stairs in the morning, but currently in the evening I am struggling on flat ground so would probably only go upstairs very occasionally.

this is the thing I don’t know if I will get better in the summer when the weather warms up. I have never been in place and has internal stairs.

YANBU. The council are ridiculous. How can you have a five-year-old roaming upstairs and you aren’t able to get up to them (quickly/without significant pain). A five year old can’t go to bed without a parent helping. Putting away laundry, tidying room etc. Just plainly ridiculous. The person who said your children will live up there, not you, is an idiot.