Well not just on my own, it's me and dp who dont want to go anywhere for christmas.
We always used to go to DPs mums for christmas dinner (mine are too far away andive very remote so weather makes it difficult to go in winter) but mil died 2 years ago in January and since then weve just done christmas ourselves.
It was easier to justify when it was covid times to just stay ourselves, but this year mil's bereaved partner has invited us (not dp's dad but as good as, he has no contact with his actual dad) as he'll be doing christmas with his sister, and bil has also invited us.
I think going to fil (using fil to keep it short!) Would be a bit too raw as it would be the same house we used to go to when mil was alive, and bil has 4 feral kids so as we are childless by choice at the moment, it seems a bit chaotic...
We are happy sorting food ourselves and just getting drunk on xmas day, but it seems everyone is feeling sorry for us and giving us pity invites...!
AIBU to turn down all the invites and stick to staying home and drinking champagne on christmas day??