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Daughter's friend smelling of weed

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Itsnamechange · 26/11/2022 19:40

Looking for opinions on this one. DD (9) has a nice little friend who's family are a bit dodgy, parents don't work, lots of young kids, big scary dog, generally come across as rough.
They had a play date recently and the girl noticeably smells of weed. I know lots of parents probably smoke weed and while it's not for me, I don't necessarily think that makes them a bad parent, but they're clearly smoking it indoors around the kids. They have multiple pre-teen children including 2 under 2.
Basically is this something I should be flagging to someone? Is it even worthwhile? Am I being a pearl clutcher? I don't ever send DD to them anyway because of the dog. It's a large, very powerful breed and isn't friendly.

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noeyesbarry · 26/11/2022 19:42

social services don’t have the time or resources to keep at risk children from being murdered, they don’t give a shit about parents who smoke weed

changingroom · 26/11/2022 19:42

Report it to the schools safeguarding team. Chances are they are aware but better to let them know.

drpet49 · 26/11/2022 19:44

I’d report it to Social Services. Poor child.

ILOVECHEESE79 · 26/11/2022 19:44

Your post suppurates judgement about this family, the issue of weed aside.

3WildOnes · 26/11/2022 19:45

Absolutely report to social services. Each report helps build a picture of a family.

Stressedmum2017 · 26/11/2022 19:45

Don't have a problem with parents smoking weed, but do it outside at least!
Not sure what you can do, if you've noticed it school will have noticed it too.

Itsnamechange · 26/11/2022 19:51

Doesn't everyone make judgements about people? The family are the same class as me. They live in the same area which is deprived. But yes I do judge smoking weed around young kids. Their lives seem a bit chaotic but this is the first time I've thought the kids weren't well cared for.

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Sarahcoggles · 26/11/2022 19:53

ILOVECHEESE79 · 26/11/2022 19:44

Your post suppurates judgement about this family, the issue of weed aside.

It's a mixture of facts and opinions. What do you mean by judgment? Are we not allowed to have points these days? Smoking weed around young kids makes you a bad parent. It's as simple as that.

Itsnamechange · 26/11/2022 19:54

Tbh I don't give a shit about parents smoking weed. I think it's a problem them smoking it around the kids, however I suspect you're right about social services.

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