I’ve just found out my OH of 3 years has been donating sperm to random women via AI and NI.
cut a long story short, one of the women added me on instagram , had a look around her profile to see who she was and saw likes from my OH. I then logged into his insta guessing the password and saw and heard voice msgs and conversations between them that she loves him, that they had sex and he’s going there again for her next cycle. She sounded somewhat taken with him and he didn’t seem bothered by this but didn’t return the lovey dovey talk. She is much older than my OH, has lots of kids, 2 have been taken off her so she’s said. I can’t imagine he would’ve told her about me, I don’t think for a second this is coincidence but she has obviously stalked his profiles and found me that way. She has not contacted me.
I also found other msgs on there to at least 20 other women he’s donated to and all I can say is it seems he’s not at all fussy where he dips his wick judging by these woman. He has most recently offered his NI services to a younger girl who has special needs.
The thing is…..
we have 2 girls by IVF as he has a low sperm count. I can’t tell if this whole thing is something to prove to himself or if it’s just about getting his leg over. He has also lied to these women about his clean bill of health as he and his family have several issues.
I am distraught at what I’ve seen….not sure why I’m sharing this but has anyone had this situation? Does anyone know where I stand with legalities as I have no intention of staying with him after this. I am also mindful of these women claiming child support from him, what would that mean for my girls and I as he really can’t afford it although I haven’t seen any confirmed pregnancies and I’m not expecting to. I also haven’t said anything to him yet and it’s killing me!