What should I do?

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What does this even mean? Husband says he loves me/fancies me etc but is not IN love with me? What is the difference? Is it over?

I must admit I don’t feel the same as I used to, but surely that is normal?

I don’t think I can to be honest no, what did you do?

I would also like to add that I am 32 now, so scared of starting again as I am old! Haha

My ex used to say that people who have affairs are absolute scum...didn't apply to him though apparently.

Hope it's not that op x

@pinacoladapleasethanks

"If he has got somebody else he would be an absolute hypocrite as he has been slagging somebody else off for doing exactly that and saying how wrong it is etc. he said if it was him he would just tell"

My exH did just that - called other senior managers for having an affair with junior staff, when he was doing just that. Cheats have no scruples, that's why they are cheats.

Oh please. You're not old. If my husband said that sort of thing to me it would just be a cards on the table type conversation. What does he want, what do you want? Does he want to work at it, maybe have marriage counselling, with a view to making it work, or do you want to call it a day and work on separating? Once that sort of thing is said you might as well just have a frank conversation about what you both want and what to do next.

How weird, he has just said he thinks I am not in love with him that is why he said it! 🤬

If this is the case then he needs to grow up. What a childish thing to say.

I hope I'm wrong here but just a thought.. be careful his fancy piece hasn't ended it or he's found out the woman he likes is married so is now backtracking... (I am not saying it is the case but worth a thought)