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Found old messages on my partners phone to abother girl

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NurseLC · 10/08/2022 09:41

Hey everyone, so ..... i dropped my phone and broke the screen so i was using my partners old phone until mine was repaired. I came across a series of messages on the phone the gist is it was a girl he matched with on tinder (before me) and she was from Scotland we live in Ireland she was in Ireland for a hen party and they were txting to try meet up, there was no mention of sex in these messages however they where flirty (i have very cuddly arms and i need your hairy chest was mentioned🙄). The thing is these messages were sent 6 months into our relationship were now together coming up 5 years, we have a daughter and bought a house together. I can't shake this from my head tho they didn't meet up the messages stated that cause he couldn't get a babysitter (for my stepchildren). When i look at him i feel our whole relationship is built on a lie he would have cheated on me if he could have he totally denys that he wanted to have sex with the girl. I dunno what to belive am i being stupid as this was so long ago? Should i just get over it? Help!!

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Adelaide66 · 10/08/2022 09:47

Live for the day. 5years together is a long time and everyone has a past. Ride above it , Nursey

MisgenderedPaul · 10/08/2022 09:50

If you have a good strong relationship now and you trust him, I would say let it go. 6 months is not a full on commitment, whereas 5 years and a house and baby are. It would be a shame to spoil a happy relationship, but only you know what kind of man he is, so you need to trust your instincts on this.

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