Is there a list of red flag behaviours anywhere?

[Comeagainow]

Suspect (but don’t know) that friend’s boyfriend may be a toxic influence. Her self esteem has bern tumbling since they got together. Is there a post on here or website somewhere with a list of emotionally manipulative red flags that might help her see if he’s a part of the picture here?
I don’t mean just physical abuse or obvious coercion here, more subtle emotional passive aggressive type stuff that chips away.

Thanks

There is a very good book called 'In Control' by Jane Monckton Smith, which sets out the escalating stages of toxic relationships based on her research. Eye opening.

I am not sure about a list of red flags but is this any good? www.womensaid.org.uk/information-support/the-survivors-handbook/im-worried-about-someone-else/

Brilliant. Thank you!

This book, with bells on.

This is excellent:

www.drjoecarver.com/clients/49355/File/IdentifyingLosers.html