What is going in here?

[Neemo]

So I feel like I have been falling out of love with DH for a long time (not interested in sex etc) his laziness and greediness was really getting to me. He has been making every excuse to be put the house recently as obviously he doesn’t want to be at home where he gets shown zero affection.

the past few days after me moaning about his lack of support he said he doesn’t feel in love with me but will always love me (as the kids mother) however he keeps being really flirty, walking past me and turning his head as he doesn’t want to show me he is smiling and saying things about a another women we used to have banter about to try and make me jealous. I don’t know what to make of this? What the hell is going on?

I don’t know but it sound a bit childish.
What actually do you want? What do you want to happen and what do you want for your future?

Yes it is childish! I really want to bring that love back if I can but he seems to just do what he wants.he doesn’t see an issue with his hobbies and social life which is fine but it’s not something I want as a family so frequently

Why did he tell me he Wasn’t in love with me and now flirting with me etc it just doesn’t make sense?

Classic reverse psychology trick favoured by teenage girls everywhere - be "mean" to someone and then be "nice" - it confuses the recipient as to whether the person actually likes them or not, and (the theory goes) makes them more desperate to please them.

But why though? He doesn’t want me to if he doesn’t love me surely.