Fat = unfashionable

[OnSilverStars]

Help! I'm 35. Two sections. Overhang belly. Bit fat. Want to be fashionable ie high waisted denim with a tucked in top. Wide leg trousers. Crop tops. But I'm too fat to look halfway decent? Size 14 (maybe 16 )

AIBU to feel doomed to skinny jeans and a top that covers my fupa (fat upper pussy area) for eternity?

Any suggestions for fashionable yet flattering?
No flowy dresses please

I call mine a gunt cos its where your gut meets your ......

Meh. You're 35 wear whatever you want.

I'm 42. And i size 18. I wouldn't wear a crop top only because all of that was fashionable when I was a teenager and I look like a tit trying to relive my youth. But I do wear wide leg jeans and I do tuck my tops in.

Thank you. I know I should wear what I want but I feel like an old fool!

Can anyone inspire me with some links of things that made you feel cool? Dare I say sexy?

FUPA????!!!

😂

Side note, if you have the money, I would really recommend a tummy tuck. I had the worst over hang and I hated it. They sowed my muscles back together and cut out all of the scar tissue.

That's definitely something to consider. Feel like I need to lose a bit of weight before I start slicing and dicing

I’m 32, size 14-16 and wear jeans with tops tucked in. Best trick is to get proper fitting jeans - go to Levi and get them tailored to you rather than squeezing into an ill fitting pair of new look size 14s.
it makes the world of difference as to where the “high waist” bit ends on your waist! And that makes or breaks the look. In my humble opinion anyway!

sexiness is confidence! Do your hair, make up nice, good quality clothes and strut your stuff. Honestly no one cares as much about how you look as you do I promise!

other things I wear are midi dresses - lots of wraps or shirt dresses, pleated or wrap midi skirts with tops tucked in, for work I love a pair of high wasted cigarette trousers with a tight blouse or polo neck tucked in and a blazer.

go and try stuff on you wouldn’t ordinarily try (but do your hair and make up so you get the full effect, nothing worse than trying to imagine yourself looking good with scraggy hair thrown up! I need the full shebang else I look like a right mess!)

but confidence is key! good luck!

Clubforty.Claire on insta, I think she’s quite good a helping everyday women with ideas.

If you want to wear those clothes then lose weight and tone up. If you’re not that bothered, stay as you are. It’s a simple choice.

Super helpful advice there🙄

1 c section here, massive boobs, big over hang and size 16/18, plus only 5ft!

Midi dresses and midi skirts are my go to. Wear with trainers or heeled boots and a leather jacket or blazer.

I'm sure I'll get shot down for using fast fashion but shein is a great place to buy plus size clothes and to try out styles you wouldn't normally go for.

Lols. Is it that simple? Wow. I wish id known sooner. Thanks hun.

And thank you to the lovely people that gave me some good ideas! Never thought about being measured for proper fitting jeans. Love that