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Friend trying to sabotage?

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Throwthevodks · 15/05/2022 20:56

Sabotage is a strong word - but I wasn’t sure how else to word it. However she is very competitive.

We look kind of similar and she’s recently had her hair done and gone a few shades darker (looks nice and suits her) and we met up yesterday with mutual friends and we all said how much we like it.

Later on I showed a picture of the hair colour I’d like to go far and it’s quite a blonde/grey colour and everyone said how amazing it would look - apart from friend who instantly said I suit dark.

She’s done things like this before, like I had my nails done and she just said “eww they look short” or laughed at some clothes I had.

Shes much prettier and slimmer than me but I feel like she would hate for me to ever look better. Aibu to think this?

OP posts:
reallyworriedjobhunter · 15/05/2022 21:05

She is not your friend.

Saracenia · 15/05/2022 21:08

She really isn't your friend. I've had a friend like this, she undermined me to make herself feel better. I dropped her eventually.

Summerholidayorcovidagain · 15/05/2022 21:11

Mention some tattoos you are getting...
And await...

Throwthevodks · 16/05/2022 12:10

Thanks everyone. I don’t expect fake compliments or be told I suit something if I don’t. Just like I said I feel like it’s a constant competition that I don’t even bother to compete in?

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10HailMarys · 16/05/2022 14:39

She's horrible.

Good friends don't say 'Ewww' when you show them your manicure, or laugh at your clothes. She's massively insecure and a nasty piece of work.

Fimofriend · 16/05/2022 14:47

She is not your friend. Stop spending time with her.

KettrickenSmiled · 16/05/2022 15:11

She’s done things like this before, like I had my nails done and she just said “eww they look short” or laughed at some clothes I had.

You have forgotten your manners OP.
When someone claims to be your "friend" but treats you like this, good etiquette demands that you return the compliment in kind, & stop seeing that person.

"Fuck off you nasty little twat" ought to do it.
She'll never bother you again.

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