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Men who casually bully women

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Drizzling · 10/05/2022 09:37

Not sure if I've worded the title correctly. I'm talking about men who talk down to and bully women they don't know on a day to day basis. Basically men who talk to women aggressively in a way they would never do to another man or if a man was present.

I've just had an unpleasant encounter with a man I don't know as I was driving. I live near a single track lane with passing places and I drive down there to take DC to nursery. Was just going down there and two cars were parked alongside each other blocking the road. A man and woman were standing outside their cars chatting. I waited a minute then did a very quick pip on my horn to let them know I was waiting as I didn't know if they'd seen me, neither acknowledged me. After another two minutes I drove towards them from the passing place I was waiting and wound down my window and said "please can I just get past?"

The woman gestured apologetically and said she was looking for somewhere. I asked where and the man went "she won't know!" He then looked really angry and aggressive and said "she's trying to find an older woman to help her ok!" (As if I were to know or they had even politely asked me to wait.) I was shocked and just said ok. I moved back to the passing place and then the woman drove past and apologised but the man sped off glaring at me.

I know it sounds like nothing but it shook me up. I was having a normal morning and these aggressive encounters unsettle me especially when I have DC in the car listening.

AIBU to think he wouldn't have spoken to me like that if I was a man or if I had a man sitting alongside me?

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Jericha · 10/05/2022 09:55

YANBU. I have experienced similar, my right of way, man in a huge car decided to floor it towards me despite great visibility and me already being committed to where cars were parked his side. We had a little stand off, and he would have less distance than me to reverse anyway. He was red faced, gesticulating at me. Luckily there was a pavement so I reversed a little, mounted that to get round him blocking the road. As I went past he shouted with such venom "YOU BLOODY WOMAN". He said "woman" so forcefully he was spitting. I was so annoyed at myself for how upset and angry this made me, especially someone using the word woman as a fucking insult.

OvaryActions · 10/05/2022 12:44

YANBU these pathetic men are cowards.

A few months ago I had a very similar situation to @Jericha and he was so shocked to get a mouthful back! I don't normally do things like that but I was just so disgusted by this pathetic little man's attitude and I'm so glad I did as his face was an absolute picture.

These men don't expect a mere woman to talk back to them, which is an utter cheek considering what a low pathetic embarrassment they are.

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