Or is this selfish behaviour?

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H decided to spend the night at a friend's last night

Obviously what I'd consider heavy drinking etc. Naturally, he feels like shit this morning

He's asked me to come and get him. I said yes that's fine. But my MIL was suppose to be coming up later today to put up DS's swing set.

H said over the phone he's going to cancel and say DS is unwell this morning.

AIBU to think it's selfish? It's only because he feels like crap. Well tough. I wouldn't do it to myself if I knew I had something concerning my child the next day. I just wouldn't want to let them down.

He says I'm being ridiculous and what's another week?

No doubt he will come home and want to go straight to bed.

Probably gone back to sleep hungover. Ridiculous man child.

Got hold of him.

He fell back to sleep after calling me to come get him.

Now wants me to go out once again and get him. Not much choice as a taxi here will cost over £60 and I don't want that amount spent of a bloody taxi ride

Argh

Fuck that. So your day with your child is ruined because he’s too pathetic to get out of bed?

Tell him to get a cab

Public transport or walk. Whatever. As long as you keep rescuing him and covering up for him ,he will keep behaving like this.

I’d put up the swing today without your MIL. Even if your DS needs supervision, he will go to sleep at some point. If it’s dark by then, just use torches.

Getting drunk and staying at a friend’s house is one thing. Cancelling plans for your child and lying about it is another thing altogether.

Ah op. He's got you driving in an out waiting on him,going along with his lies. No wonder he's like this. You make it comfortable for him to be a dick

For fuck’s sake. What a wanker.

Sounds like there’s huge background here.

OP this isn’t ok, he is treating you and DC like shit.

Jeez the amount of posters who get worried when their selfish pissed up partners don't get in touch

Tell him to call his mother if he wants a lift home. You're busy.

Have you got a playpen? Can you put it in the garden so DS is contained and you/you and MIL put up the swingset?

I wouldn't. I'd make him walk.

Why are you putting up with this shit? Your child will grow up thinking this is normal behaviour.

I'd tell him no more drinking until he can be sensible and not a selfish little douche bag.

What an absolute pollock. Do you even like him?

Slippery Road op.. My now ex had me ring his work most Mondays as he was still unconscious on the front from floor from the Sunday. Usually after breaking something in our home.

Let mil come. And reconsider your future.

I'd be livid. Depending on how your finances are managed, I'd make him get the taxi and then remind him that that's now £60 less he has for takeaways/nights out etc for the rest of the month, all because he couldn't manage to get out of bed.

What a melt.

If you do collect him, you have definitely earned £60 to spend on whatever YOU want.

You can't go and get him. DS is unwell remember