DH's sister is getting married soon. They have asked DH to be an usher, me to be a bridesmaid and our children 5 and 2 to be pageboys. Which was so lovely of them and I was honoured to be asked.
We're trying to work out the logistics. There are no options to stay at the wedding venue so we will be staying a short drive away. The wedding won't finish until late and I mentioned that I will probably have to leave a bit early (but after all the main bits) to put the boys to bed. Happy to keep them there as long as they are tolerating it but realistically they're not going to be able to stay up until midnight when things finish and while I know some children are happy to sleep in a pushchair mine absolutely wouldn't.
I got the sense they were disappointed we won't all be staying until the very end, and I totally get that you'd normally want bridesmaids to stay until the end, but just not sure how else we can make it work. DH is an usher and it's his sister, so it makes more sense for me to leave early than him, obviously his parents and other close relatives will all be at the wedding too and it's not local to where we or they live so my parents wouldn't be able to pick them up either. As there's nowhere to stay on site we can't take turns watching the children in a hotel room as we have done at other weddings.
So I feel a bit stuck, I don't want to disappoint them but can't see a way around this? AIBU?