Why…just why?

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I was having a chat with my OH today. Bit of background we used to coach/work in a semi extreme sport and several years ago he’d had a scary experience and left the sport. Since then we’d bought a house and had a child, change of jobs for him etc). I’d spent yesterday before with a senior coach working out how to get back to my former level and had a really good day. She’d advised I’d fly through the new coaching levels which really pleased me. He’s responded with ‘that’s because they’ve dumbed it down’. AIBU to be severely pissed off?

Yeah, that's really rude and mean. I presume he's not usually such a thoughtless twat?

It sparked a moment of jealousy for him. We are all only human.

Good luck with the sport, though.

Yeah he is jealous and mean. I'd just crack on with it and don't ask his opinion again.

@MissNothing1991 - what is the point of any thread, or life whilst we are at it? What a weird comment. OP wants a bit of perspective, that’s all.

Well have they dumbed it down or not?
Who is BU depends on the reality not what you or he prefers to be reality.

YANBU - he's jealous and doesn't want you to feel good. I'd let him know, in no uncertain terms, how unattractive that is.

I suspect it's brought up some uncomfortable feelings and that's his way of dealing with them.

I am into adventures sports and love it when men mansplain and assume they know better. It is annoying. YANBU

It's often quite a typical statement from someone, even a partner., so not worth thinking about, or even writing about.

@1forAll74 - it is definitely not a typical statement from a partner or even a friend. I would definitely think about it and why they respected me so little. I think you need to reassess your expectations of people.

Have they dumbed it down, changed standards or improved equipment making certain thinks more attainable?
Without knowing the context it’s impossible to say.

Sounds like jealousy to me.

Are you sure he wasn't joking?
Is it easier now?

I thought there was a general belief that most things have been dumbed down but it doesn't mean someone should piss on your chips when you're feeling good about yourself.

He's jealous and doesn't want you to have something he can't have. Is he like that in other ways?

YANBU. As has been said, it sounds like he is jealous. That was a spiteful comment.

I agree with @Summerofcontent - perhaps he is still feeling shaken up by what happened to him and he's projecting these feelings onto you. Either way, you should try talking to him about it, let him know that his comment hurt your feelings and ask him why he said it.

It is mean.

He is jealous. That doesn’t make it OK, but it does make it worth taking about. Next weekend say you were hurt by it, you think it’s untrue and illogical and you expect him to be supportive of you.

YANBU
Even if they had "dumbed it down" (and, having stepped away from the sport, I would question if he could say that with any authority..), it's a spiteful put-down.

That is so unkind and unfair of him and he is just jealous of what you did and can achieve. I would tell him to support you and if he can't then say nothing at all as you are not putting up with his snidy comments and insecure comments. You go for it and enjoy what makes you happy. If anything things will have gotten harder and you should be very happy that the coach said you will fly through it so go for it.

You need to be a bit more sensitive.

Wow, that was a real put-down wasn't it? What a nasty and uncalled-for thing to say to you.

Did you challenge him on it op?

@whynotwhy

You need to be a bit more sensitive.

Are you joking? Her partner implied she's thick/a bit useless and you're blaming her?